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Life is enjoyed more by being healthy not being skinny!

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Those three words are easy to say but not not so easy to say truthfully!

I know I need to learn to love myself right now in all my entirety and live the life I love, because losing the weight will not make me happy or solve life's demons. Granted it will make it physically easier to cope with life but it will not turn lemon into lemonade.

The change needs to come from within the mind and soul and the weightloss will follow. My emotional eating turned into a daily, chronic addictive habit that I use to self-soothe. There are good techniques to self-soothe and poor ones like emotional eating (that's me) and workaholic (that was me).

Why am I living my life to try and please everyone else...it is exhausting and impossible to please everyone and when I think about it, maybe I don't even know what their thinking but think I know. Confusing right...whewh no kidding!

Long-term success rate of people keeping off their weight is not very high, so why does almost every weightloss program only deal with calories in and calories burned (food and exercise)?

I am reading a book by Susan Albers called 50 ways to soothe yourself without food. It offers mindfull skills to end dependency on eating as a means of coping.

Unknowingly, I have become a threat to my most valued intimate relationship as I have placed the burden of comforting and "making me feel" loved on his shoulders.

It is time to learn how to love me and take back control of my future.

Member Since: 1/4/2009

Fitness Minutes: 5,743

My Goals:
Love myself at any weight/size.
Be confident in my skin.
Be healthy and fit and that will not be determined just by the number on the scale.
Learn how to soothe myself without food.

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Kayaking/canoeing, paddle-boating, 4-wheeling, community theatre, campfires, swimming, hiking, gardening, reading and exercising.

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Dragons Den, Dirty Jobs, How Stuff Works, The Biggest Loser.

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    hey, I'm just searching for someone to go through the 28-day bootcamp with, and noticed you posted your goals today... I'm starting today too, so if you want to motivate each other that would be great! I'm so impressed to see that you got to wear the green polka dot dress :) congrats!
    3676 days ago
    Hi I found you on the Love ones of Truck Drivers team and nobody is active on there. Let's get more active it helps!!!
    3821 days ago
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    Hope your year will be wonderful and that the Polka Dot dress is getting closer and closer to a perfect fit.
    4081 days ago
    Business travel is hard. I don't envy people who do it a lot. So much all the time. My best advice is to look at the restaurants website to find something yummy and better for you. I find myself eating out a lot so I do this and is satisfies my desier to eat out, but also makes me feel better about my choices.

    Keep on keeping on!
    4145 days ago
    losing weight is HARD. we've had all our lives to learn and to practice the behaviors that got us here. it takes TIME to change those habits; to consciously act against the bad ones and replace them with new. and it IS a struggle. i fight myself EVERY DAY. don't think for one second i wouldn't just rather go thru the drive thru than to go home and make a sandwich for lunch. every choice is a mental battle. sometimes i win; sometimes i don't. but every good choice is a step in the right direction. i used to think every day was an opportunity, but i have to take it down farther than that ... every CHOICE is an opportunity.

    YOU CAN DO THIS. be gentle with yourself. give yourself time. it's a process. it has to be -- it's the rest of your life. this isn't a quick fix, it's how you hope to live for the rest of a very long, healthy life. take a breath and start over. never give up. you're worth it!! (((hugs)))
    4150 days ago
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