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I need to make changes in my life that will help me to feel better about myself and my body. I know that support is the best place for me to start.


Poem about Meditation by Thich Nhat Hahn

To meditate does not mean to fight with a problem.To meditate means to observe.Your smile proves it.It proves that you are being gentle with yourself, that the sun of awareness is shining in you, that you have control of your situation.You are yourself,and you have acquired some peace.- Thich Nhat Hahn

“Though we all have the fear and the seeds of anger within us, we must learn
not to water those seeds and instead nourish our positive qualities-those of
compassion, understanding, and loving kindness.”

- Thich Nhat Hahn-

When I see someone smile, I know immediately that he or she is dwelling in awareness.This half-smile, how many artists have labored to bring it to the lips of countless statuesand paintings? I am sure the same smile must have been on the faces of the sculptorsand painters as they worked. Can you imagine an angry painter giving birth to such a smile?Mona Lisa's smile is light, just a hint of a smile. Yet even a smile like that is enough to relaxall the muscles in our face, to banish all worries and fatigue. A tiny bud of a smile on our lipsnourishes awareness and calms us miraculously. It returns us to the peace we thought we had lost.

There are so many things that can provide us with peace. Next timeyou take a shower or a bath, I suggest you hold your big toes inmindfulness. We pay attention to everything except our toes. Whenwe hold our toes in mindfulness and smile at them, we will find thatour bodies have been very kind to us. We know that any cell in ourtoes can turn cancerous, but our toes have been behaving very well,avoiding that kind of problem. Yet, we have not been nice to themat all. These kinds of practices can bring us happiness.

If we face our unpleasant feelings with care, affection, and nonviolence,we can transform them into a kind of energy that is healthy and hasthe capacity to nourish us. By the work of mindful observation,our unpleasant feelings can illuminate so much for us, offering usinsight and understanding into ourselves and society.

Therapists want to help us throw out what is unwanted and keep onlywhat is wanted. But what is left may not be very much. If we tryto throw away what we don’t want, we may throw away most of ourselves.Instead of acting as if we can dispose of parts of ourselves, we should learnthe art of transformation. We can transform our anger, for example,into something more wholesome, like understanding. We do not need surgeryto remove our anger. If we become angry at our anger, we will have two angersat the same time. We only have to observe it with love and attention. If we take careof our anger this way, without trying to run away from it, it will transform itself.This is peacemaking. If we are peaceful in ourselves, we can make peacewith our anger. We can deal with depression, anxiety, fear,or any unpleasant feeling in the same way.

The Buddha spoke gently, "Once a person is caught by beliefin a doctrine, one loses all one's freedom. When onebecomes dogmatic, that person believes his or her doctrineis the only truth and that all other doctrines are heresy.Disputes and conflicts all arise from narrow views. They canextend endlessly, wasting precious time and sometimes evenleading to war. Attachment to views is the greatest impedimentto the spiritual path. Bound to narrow views, one becomesso entangled that it is no longer possibleto let the door of truth open."

Do we need to make a special effort to enjoy the beauty of the blue sky?Do we have to practice to be able to enjoy it? No, we just enjoy it.Each second, each minute of our lives can be like this.Wherever we are, any time, we have the capacity to enjoy the sunshine,the presence of each other, even the sensation of our breathing.We don't need to go to China to enjoy the blue sky.We don't have to travel into the future to enjoy our breathing.We can be in touch with these things right now.

-Thich Nhat Hahn

I love to read Thich Nhat Hahn, it helps me to focus on the moment and let go of unneccessary thinking that is holding me back. I have a long road ahead, but it is nice knowing I have so many places to look for support.

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the Great (positive) Thinkers of the World Pages!

I hope you find the inspiration you need to keep moving forward.
Namaste, Melanie

Member Since: 5/26/2009

My Goals:
I want to feel good inside my body and to move freely and comfortably.

I also want to purchase a kayak.Reached this goal on 6/7/09

My Program:
Take a walk with a friend. Drink lots of water. Pay attention to when my body tells me I need to eat. Make good choices about what I eat.

Personal Information:
Hi, My name is Melanie and I live in Vermont. I am a single parent of boy girl twins who are now 16 years old .
I enjoy crafts, movies and camping at Solarfest in July.

Other Information:
I work in special education at the high school level and I love my job, it is very rewarding.

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    Hi, Jennifer! I have been away a long time, too, but I am back. Nice day, eh?
    3145 days ago
  • v JENNIFERK2009
    Hi Spark Friend! I am sorry that I have been away so long! How have you been?

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    3591 days ago
    Hi, Mmella! Welcome back!!
    I hope things are going well for you -- and that getting back on track feels as easy as going for a paddle in a serene pond. :)
    3669 days ago
  • v CATLOVER756
    Thanks for the add as a friend. I see you like beading too. I do lots of crafts including knitting, woodcarving, basket weaving, painting, and beading.
    However, none of these crafts do much for losing calories because they do not requireme me to move around very much when doing them.

    Good luck today on restarting your weight loss journey.
    3669 days ago
  • v CATLOVER756
    Hi Melani,
    Nice to read your profile. I too got a kayak this summer. Have been a few times and looking forward to really enjoying it in the spring. I am new to Sparkpeople, and am working on dropping 50 pounds. 5 so far. Have a daughter 15, and a son 27. Your link to living life fully was inspirational. Hope to hear from you.
    3670 days ago
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