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  • v no profile image SHERGENIUS8
    This all sounds so right.

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    2934 days ago
    emoticon Greetings and emoticon

    I know it hurts but it sounds like GREAT NEWS to me - just think....nobody to criticize you all the time! And I don't care what he 'said,' he is NOT leaving because you gained 30 lbs but because he is superficial, insecure and pathetically immature. He obviously didn't see you as a person but more as a 'possession' or prize pet to show off to others so he could feel like he had accomplished something.

    Trust me, I have 'been there, done that' - not the exact circumstances, I'm sure, but I've been thru the mill with similar guys over the years. I wish I hadn't felt bad about losing them but THANK GOODNESS because it gave me the chance to focus and concentrate on ME - and as a result, I've grown and developed into a person I really like.

    And after I did a LOT of growing - growing up and growing spiritually, mentally and emotionally, I did meet a wonderful man who loves me TOTALLY - as it happens, I have gained a lot of weight since we first got together but his concern has only been for my health and comfort, not 'looks' - we just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary 2 months ago.

    Now that I'm looking back, I can't imagine what I was thinking with the other guys - yes, including a few who were super-super-super wealthy!! But no amount of $$ can 'buy happiness' and you have stated you were totally depressed - who needs a guy like that? Good riddance!!

    Congrats on taking the next step to reaching a healthier you by getting active with SparkPeople - it's a great community, wonderful resources and fantastic support. You will find there is a lot more to the program than 'just losing weight' and you might find yourself - your REAL self - becoming happier than you've ever been before!

    Please check out the SparkTeams - I think you will find a lot of others 'just like you' there. You can choose SparkTeams by age group, lifestyle or interests, geographic location or several other ways - some of the teams you might like include the Official 10-minute Daily Exercise Streak Challenge, Starting Over Weekly Mini-Challenge Team, 10k Steps A Day and Motivation & Positive Attitude Plan but there are so many to choose from, you can have a great time looking for the ones that seem to fit you best! In fact, I suggest joining more than one group, post your intro there and write blogs as often as you can - you will find tons of friends and support that way, I promise!!

    In my experience, SparkPeople is like a emoticon in some ways - it's lots of fun and easy to make friends because we're all in this together. I like the way a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE is emphasized instead of a 'quick fix wonder diet' so it's good for people wanting to lose weight, maintain a previous loss, get healthier, improve fitness and many other goals - it's about waaaaaay more than 'just' losing weight so you have definitely come to the right place!


    If you ever need any help using features of the site, there are tutorial videos under the HELP section that can show you how to use the features of the site. You can also find them on the START page and several other places on the site.


    If you haven't already discovered The Spark book and/or the SparkDiet linked at the bottom of the START page, check them out - the program is simple but extremely effective. There is a TON of information on this site - so much it might even seem overwhelming but fortunately we don't have to 'digest' everything at once! The FastBreak program is a good way to start.


    Another nice thing about SparkPeople is that we have permission to be human - we don't have to change everything at once or be in a hurry to reach our goals. Take a few baby steps and then a few more and before you know it, you'll have completed a long journey - I hope you enjoy this community as much as I do - it teaches us how to make positive lifetime changes because that's the only thing that will work over time!


    3649 days ago
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