Struggling to find our voices...
Friday, August 15, 2008
It is the path of least resistance that makes rivers and men crooked.
- B.J. Palmer, father of chiropractic
FROM HEALTHY REFLECTIONS EMAIL TODAY:
Struggling to find your voice:
In the face of conflict we might be tempted to just go with the flow and not make waves. The path of least resistance is saying "yes" when you want to say "no" and that road is always paved with regrets and mistakes. While compromise is good and a necessary part of healthy relationships, no one should have to fully deny their feelings and remain voiceless while others dominate a situation. It might feel easier to nod your head and passively agree, but in the long run you are being cheated. While there might be a whole list of justifications and excuses for stepping off the path of your principles, staying true to yourself reaps countless more rewards than selling out to appease someone else. Reconcile today the negative passivity you have displayed in the past.
MY TAKE ON THE MATTER:
I was passive in my first marriage. I would do what I was told. I was always like this as a child! I was the people pleaser. Well, with my second marriage I seem to love conflict. Not in a bad way, but I do speak my mind. Sometimes my DH will ask why I'm acting so crazy and I will just say that I wanted to get my point across LOL! I have no problem doing this with my new DH, but with family and friends it gets tough!
I wonder if most "fat" people are people pleasers. Well I think it's time I become the best people pleaser of all and start to please MYSELF! That is my new goal.
I will speak my mind in a kind and loving way.
I will say no when I mean no.
If I change my mind about doing something, I will not feel bad.
I will do what makes ME happy without hurting others.
Will others join me in this goal? Maybe it will help us lose the weight faster!