I'm Not Everyone's Cup Of Tea!
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Do you accept responsibly for your choices in life?.
Do you feel in control of your life? No matter how negative events or actions may become, you are the only force that is able to determine the reaction. Often we fail to do this and instead blame the world for our feelings of sadness, rejection, and hopelessness. The reality is that your actions are a choice, and you must claim those feelings and choices.
It's funny about accepting responsibility. I stopped blaming my parents years ago & anyone else I use to blame. But I HAVE started blaming my DH. I guess he's an easy target, LOL!
1. I'm lonely because DH wanted to moved far away from my friends and family.
Well, I agreed that I also wanted to! The money was too good to pass up!
2. I'm stuck in the house because DH totaled my car.
Well, I do have a bike and a great pair of feet to walk as far as I want to.
3. My DH never wants to go out bowling, movies, bingo, etc.
When he does rarely ask I always say not now! Plus, if I wanted to I could just take the car and go myself and he would follow.
4. We won't be buying a house for a few years because DH wasted all his money a few years ago.
I could get a full time job and contribute instead of just waiting for him to do it.
5. I eat cake, ice cream and other things I really don't want because DH brings me out or brings them in the house.
HELLO, I put it in my mouth, LOL!
My life is my own. It doesn't matter if I'm married or single. I am my own person with my own mind and choices. I believe, it has to do with one of the previous Healthy Reflections! People pleasers are more apt to blame others for things. This is because when we want to say no, but say yes we feel that they pushed us to it. When in actuality it was us being afraid that someone would stop liking us if we said no. Would it really be all that terrible if someone didn't like us. And if they don't like us, isn't that more about them than us.
One of my Agreements on my Spark Page says, "Don't take anything personally" Well, this is a really hard one for me and I am still working on it. I guess everything is involved in some way or another.
If I stop saying yes all the time, then I only have myself to blame for my thoughts and actions. Maybe I don't think I'm ready to make decisions. Well if not now than when? I think I will step up to the plate and take responsibility for my life.
Sparks has started me on the journey to think for myself and not care if everyone likes me (still hurts a little)! When I first started I wanted to join so many teams and add so many friends. Now I pick only teams that are active and fun! I've left so many teams since the beginning and am happy with where I'm at. I don't add too many friends, but I subscribe to lots of blogs. This way I can comment on blogs and help people along, but don't have hundreds of friends that I'm wondering why aren't they messaging me LOL!
THIS IS MY LIFE! I'm starting to be the real me. You can like me or not! I'm not everyone's cup of tea, LOL! I'm pushy and honest when it comes to helping others, I don't take criticism well, I sometimes hate following directions, and I definitely don't like being told what to do.