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Do You Follow What Your Heart Craves?

Monday, August 25, 2008

Do you follow what your heart craves?

As odd as it sounds, sometimes our logical minds can hold us back. Our brains might scream at us that it is safer to do what has been tried and true in the past, but don't let the fear of the unknown stop you! Trying new things can be terrifying, but following our passions can make us feel alive and become some of our most memorable moments in life.


I was quite scared in February of 2003! I felt stagnant and alone even though I was married for 24 years and had 3 boys. My then husband said to me, "Leave if you aren't happy"! So that night 2/1/03 I packed a small bag and walked out of my life. I had never followed my feelings before that. It was such an excilerating and scary thing, but it changed my life for the better. Not right away of course. When you've been with the same man for so long and have never, I mean never been on your own, It's really scary. Especially at the age of 45! I moved about 5 times within the next year.

I had lived in MA for 47 years and always wanted to travel but my first husband hated traveling! I met my DH in May of 2004! I had worked at the same job for 10 years and loved it, but felt stuck! In August of 2005 my then boyfriend asked if I would like to move to South Carolina! I didn't hesitate for one minute. We moved within a few weeks. We lived there for 2 months. In that 2 months he came home from work one day and asked if I wanted to get married. So we drove to the Justice of the Peace and said our I Do's! The weather was hot in SC. I lived with his family and he stayed in a hotel 4 days out of the week. I wanted more.

My DH came home and asked if I would like to move again. Of course I would! We packed all we could fit into his SUV and drove up to IL. We lived in a hotel for 3 weeks until I found a nice apt. We have moved one more time since then, but stayed in IL.

I know have 2 lovely dogs, a wonderful, caring, understanding husband and finally a sense of peace. I miss my boys and family back in MA, but I know in a few years we will be moving back to buy a house. I am traveling now before settling down. Something I should have done when I was in my 20's! But sometimes we do things backwards. The point is that we do what we want with our lives and don't stop trying to be happy because of our age or our circumstances.

I hope everyone that reads this does something out of their comfort zone. No matter how small it is, it is truly excilerating!
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    Thank you for sharing that - it has given some insight into a happy outcome from a bad situation. I sitting on that fence that you sat on in 2003, not knowing which way to go, maybe it is time to get out of my comfort zone too.

    4570 days ago
    Wow, talk about stepping out on a limb! You sound empowered by the choices you made. :)

    Do you still feel empowered? Did that decision change the way you make decisions now? As in...do you step out of your comfort zones more often today than you did before?

    Most of us tend to stay where we're at and maintain the status quo. But I agree with you. True happiness is found in challenging ourselves and following our hearts. Growth is a necessary part of life. When we stay in our comfort zones, we stagnate there and become something less than we are meant to be.

    After my children were raised, I lived alone and settled into a routine....a stagnant routine. I was content with my life, but not very excited about it. Lately, I've been pushing my boundaries by going to school, losing weight, helping my son learn the business side of his business. I'm growing again, and much happier for it. I feel alive now and I look toward the future with the anticipation of good things to come.

    Thanks for the blog... it really got me thinking! :)
    4570 days ago
    I'm so happy for you that you took that brave step and followed your happiness :-)
    4571 days ago
    That's a great blog. Very heartfelt and sincere and it had great advice!

    Cheers to you!!!

    4571 days ago
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