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The Choices we make do have consequences.

Sunday, February 01, 2009

I just have to share this for many reasons. Mainly, I hope it can make us think and help us to make the best choices for ourselves. Two, to help us see the consequences of our choices, and three it has really been bothering me and I need to get it out. I had an appointment Friday at my doctor's office. I walked in and the one lady who is usually at the check in desk was not there. I saw someone else who usually works in the back. She greeted me and she commented on my weight loss (which of course made me feel really good) I began talking to her about Spark people. She told me she was doing Nutra systems to lose some weight. I said I thought that was fantastic and I was happy for her. I told her about all the great articles, tips, and all around help she can get here. I told her about the wonderful people who all support one another and that it was great going through this with others who were all going through the same thing. I told her the success I had here was the only thing that had worked for me in many years. Anyway she seemed interested and so I gave her the web site information. Then I asked where the lady was that normally greets the patients. She said oh she has been out for the last 6 weeks. She went on to tell me she had emergency heart bypass surgery. She had a quintuple bypass. I felt so sad to hear this. The lady was always so sweet and such a wonderful people person. She was a heavy person who was clearly in danger because of the extra weight she carried. She went on to tell me how ruff the surgery was for her and how her family was so very worried that she may not survive it. I said I can imagine how scared she must have been. That is a very serious surgery to have. She went on to tell me that she had 4 arteries that were nearly completely blocked. Of course the arteries can be blocked by fatty foods and just bad eating habits in general. The lady said yes she was a ticking time bomb. But, her being so heavy never seemed to scare her. She eats a lot of fast foods and all the junk that is bad for us all. I said I bet she feels differently about that now. I bet she will be making healthy food choices from now on. I was floored when she replied oh no, she was complaining about the hospital food and she had her husband go out and bring her McDonald's. I said WHAT? She went on to tell me that the nurse was livid with her for eating that. They really lectured her on what those bad choices will do to her. The nurse told her she was lucky to have made it thru this surgery and told her she should really learn a lesson from this and make better choices for her health. The lady that was telling me this story said to me that what happened to her co worker really did scare her and that is why she started Nutra systems for herself. She said she never wanted to have to go through that kind of surgery/ She had lost 10 pounds already and looked good. I was so happy for her and wished her much success. I have thought so much about the lady that went through the surgery. How can she still be in any kind of denial about her health issues due to her weight? Why didn't she learn from this? Does she have a death wish? It disturbed me so much, I thought about her all weekend . I decided to blog about it in part as a way to get it off my mind. I hope you will feel as I do. That is, SO GRATEFUL to have made a decision to get healthy and make good choices for myself. It really is all about the choices we make in the end. We all have the power to say I want to be a healthier person and do something about it. We also have the power to say I am going to eat anything I want and to heck with what it does to my health. It really is all up to us. No one can do it for us and no one but us can make a difference in how healthy we eat. We can decide to be like the lady who had the bypass as a result of her bad choices or we can decide to be like the co worker who as a result of her friends situation, is doing something to improve her health and to lose weight. It really is all up to us. It really is all about our choices. I am so happy I made the choice to be here and that you are all here with me. If I get in a place where I may feel weak and am in danger of making a bad choice for myself, I will think of the bypass surgery this lady had and that will snap me back into the reality of what a bad choice can do.

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  • DIANE003
    This is so true... We do make our own decisions and I am so grateful every day that I have decided on a new way of life. I do not look at this as a diet I look at it as a life style change. I am so grateful for finally getting it.
    4371 days ago
    I can understand how you feel. Last August my dad got up one Sunday morning ready to go to church. Then he decided that he had some tightness in his chest and maybe he should have it checked out. He had been feeling it for a few days. No pain...just tightness. So he skipped church (the first thing out of character for him) and went to the ER (the 2nd thing out of character for him). My Dad wasn't & isn't over weight. He never knew he had a heart condition. My Mom always fed us good healthy food... much like the average family, but we never got lots of junk food and we certainly never ate out much. Well, by the time Sunday night hit my Dad had a quadrupedal bypass done. The docs had a hard time keeping him alive long enough to get him to surgery. We almost lost him. They said he was running on 10% of only one artery. All the rest was blocked. Well, he's doing well now. So much so he went back to work sooner than they had expected by about a month! But he's learned from it. Mom & Dad are very picky about everything they eat now. We all are. I was already trying to change my life into a healthy one, though SP has helped me learn that what I thought was healthy wasn't necessarily healthy. But I'm determined to do the best I can and not let it happen to me. All 4 of my Grandparents has heart problems and 3 of the 4 were diabetic. I wanna grow old as healthy as possible.
    4372 days ago
    I've been feeling grateful since the day i became a strict vegetarian. I felt even more grateful when i started to apply all the health principles i've learned in church to my actual lifestyle and am now very close to my current weight loss goal. I won't have diabetes, or high blood pressure. I praise the Lord for this! \o/\o/\o/
    4374 days ago
    Great blog.
    I have cut fast food and fried food out of my diet. I still had fast food a couple of times since starting SP It is very hard to give up!. I WILL think about this again before I pull in to get that McDonald's big Mac and fries even if I have cut it almost out I think it is time give it up completely!
    Thanks for the reminder.
    4374 days ago
  • DSPTCHR0911
    You know I recently read an article that said once you have increased the number of fat cells in your body, they NEVER go away - even with weighloss; what they do is shrink. That in itself frightened me. To know that if I happen to do like the receptionist and ignore my bad choices, I will just continue to multiply my fat cells. Why would I do this to myself?

    Anyhow, I hope you writing about this incident made you feel better!!!

    4374 days ago
    emoticon Yes it is never too late to start watching what we eat but especially after a bypass surgery???
    4374 days ago
    Thanks for sharing that and getting it off your mind. It really makes you think. We all know what we are SUPPOSE to do but sometimes it takes a reality check to guide us in the right direction. Good luck to you on your journey and healthy choices!! Kathy
    4374 days ago
    This story was an eye opener! Unfortunately, the lady who had the surgery represents so many people in the same circumstances. It is sad that they can not make the changes in their lives that would help themselves, for themselves and their loved ones! emoticon
    4374 days ago
    this reminds me of a story my father told me.
    my mother died 12 years ago after bypass surgery. she had always been very conscious of her health, she quit smoking early, she ate healthily, she watched her weight and her cholesterol levels. but she had type 1 diabetes since her youth and her metabolism just worked very differently, making her struggle constantly with her blood fats.
    she needed that bypass, but there is a 2-5% chance of failure. she died within the first few hours after surgery.
    when my father had to pick up her clothes and stuff from the clinic he found quite a few of the other heart surgery patients in a hidden corner by the side entrance, they had sneaked out and were smoking and eating mars bars.
    my dad said he would have liked to punch them all in their faces, to yell at them that they didn't deserve life, the second chance they had been given, if they were throwing it away like this.
    doesn't that sound familiar?
    4374 days ago
  • no profile photo CHANGE4FREEDOM
    Thank you so much for sharing. It is chilling to think that something as serious as that surgery would not be a major wake up call!
    4374 days ago
    My dad had a quadruple bypass in the late 70s. It was an experimental surgery that he happened to luck in to. (They were just starting to attempt doubles, but we were lucky enough to live near Cleveland Clinic and his Dr. was one of the guys working on the quad. They did it as a favor because he had small kids.) Anyway, after the surgery he attended hospital sponsored programs that were meant to teach him better eating, proper exercise, etc.

    Half of the people would stop at McDonalds on their way to the class, and complained about the exercise the whole time. My dad was given 5 years and lived for 10. I believe that it is because he took the things that they said seriously. Sure, he ate Taco Bell and Mc Donalds, but the majority of his diet was whole grains, lean meats, fruits & veggies, etc.

    When my husband's grandma had emergency bypass surgery at a different hospital, the next day they fed her a bacon double cheeseburger and fries. emoticon
    4374 days ago
  • CMR9N88
    I'm so glad you shared this--definitely eye-opening and inspirational. Thank you!!
    4374 days ago
    You are right. It is all about the choices we make. I am glad you have made the choice to be healthy before it is too late. I'm working on it. Each day is a new day with choices to make as soon as we get out of bed. Some days my choices are better than others. But after reading this gentle reminder ... maybe my choices will be a little more consistently HEALTHY.

    Thank you so much for sharing and my thoughts and prayers go out to that dear woman and her family. I hope she will start making healthier choices of her own.

    4375 days ago
    You are such a wonderfully compelling blogger! I'll make sure to "stay tuned" to all your entries - this one's so thought provoking (and chilling!). It is a very fortunate, positive thing that we're here, isn't it? Write on! Your fan - Sara emoticon
    4375 days ago
  • DEBANNE1124
    Great blog, honey! Stick with thsoe better choices you will be glad you did!
    4375 days ago
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