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Even in ICU, my glass was half full

Friday, May 01, 2009

I spent 45 hours at the hospital. My husband's mother died. I really do not have the strength at this point to summarize what we went through, but I want to tell you that for 2 days I kept counting my blessings. Here are a few of them.
1. Thank God that my mother in law had a lucid window where she made the
decision to not be put on life support. She made a decision that no one
wanted to make.
2. Thank God for thewonderul staff that cared for Helen in the hospital. We
only had caring and helpful nurses and doctors. Kindness, compassion and love.
They all had it.
3. That an accute illness ultimately took her life instead of watching alzheimers
strip her off all memories. She new us all and the grandkids till the very end.
4. There was no fighting at the hospital. All she wanted was for her
her whole family to be around her and they were. They were all
getting along, and she would have been so proud of them all.
5. Helen died in the hospital and not the house or a nursing home. That will
make things so much easier for my Father in law. He did not want to find
her. He did not want to admit her to a nursing home.
6. I got to hear my mother in law tell people that the man sitting beside her, "I
met Ernie when I was 7 years old. I have known him for 71 years. He is the
love of my life" " Do you see my prince Charming?"
7. I was able to say to my mother in law, " Granny, I love you. I want you to
know that we will take care of Dad. He will never be alone. I want to thank
you for Dana. IF it were not for you and Dad he would not be in my life and
he is awesome. I love you Granny, and it is ok. WE will be ok."

She was a fine lady. Helen Elizabeth Wornham LeCuyer
August 10, 1931- May 1, 2009
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    Peace to you and your family. Thank goodness you're healthy and becoming stronger each day as you will need it.

    SF Bay Area

    4364 days ago
    I also have been there with my MIL & both my SIL's.
    Reading this made my chest tight.
    I am so sorry for your loss.
    Lynn J., Tacoma, WA
    4366 days ago
    God bless you and your family. Each loss is so unique not only because each person is unique, but also because each relationship is unique. Your FIL will need you for a long time. A new journey of transition has just begun for all of you. Today is the 4 month anniversary of my Dad's death, and the journey is still so new and gutwrenching.
    Prayers for you and your husband, and your FIL.
    4366 days ago
    Oh Jeanne,

    You have brought me to tears. I love you so much and am so proud of how wonderful a daughter you were to Helen - the daughter she never had by birth. She couldn't have had a better one. We are here for you no matter what.

    4366 days ago
    What a nice testiment to your mothier-in-law she was obviously a special person. emoticon hang on to those blessings as you go through this. Sometimes being able to see the good that happens in a bad times brings such comfort- When I lost my grandmother a couple years ago I found myself thinking like you, If you can go peacefully and surrounded by people who love you - I guess that is as good as it gets when in comes to death. ( It's still tough though) My sympathy to you and your family. emoticon
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    All my sympathies to you and your family, What a beautiful way to go surrounded by SO much Love!!! Thoughts and prayers for you!!
    4366 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I know your MIL is at peace, knowing that she was surrounded by her loved ones.

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    4366 days ago
    My heart to you.....take care of yourself over these next very full days.
    My mother in law passed in November...it's been very busy ever since. Up side is that my sister in law who was a great friend over the years is even closer as we speak on the phone or instant message nearly every day. If you ever need to vent or just commisurate with another who has just gone through this family crises...please e.
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