Hi Spark Friends,
I felt compelled to write this blog today because I want to share with you all something I have learned and I think it is something important that we all need to think about and try to keep in mind.
A lot of overweight people feel very judged in public. We have felt like people monitor how much we eat in a restaurant. People stare, people whisper, people can be pretty rude and judgmental because of others being overweight. A lot of overweight people tend to isolate because of the public ridicule they feel when they do go out. Instead of trying to understand that overweight people may be overweight because of many factors such as emotional eating, no self esteem or confidence, they have given up on themselves, settled for being that way, or even that they are living in denial. Maybe they are depressed or just are not educated in the risks of all the extra weight on their bodies. Whatever their reason may be for being overweight, they need to be educated and encouraged to live a healthy lifestyle. They need to be supported and taught how to get healthy and realize they are worth the effort it takes to do so. Not judged and ridiculed.
Now with that said, I think a lot of overweight people can feel all the ways I mentioned above but also be guilty of doing the same thing to others that they do not want or like done to them. That is judge and ridicule others. The people they do it to are thin people. Without knowing the person some overweight people automatically decide not to like someone because they are thinner. They think and say things like I hate her because she is naturally thin or look at her she thinks she is all that! They judge and form an ugly opinion of someone due to their weight. They may feel jealous because they think smaller people can eat anything they want and never gain any weight. They resent that. They do to them exactly what they complain about others doing to them.
I am here to share with you the facts. I used to feel smaller people were naturally lucky and jealous because they did not have to work at their weight. I never disliked anyone because of it but I envied them. Here is the truth as I now see it and have discovered first hand.
Just because someone is thin does not make them healthy. Healthy comes from living a healthy lifestyle. There are thin people that have some pretty serious health issues. Because they can eat all they want and not gain weight is actually a problem if they are not living healthy and taking care of their bodies just like overweight people have to do to lose weight. Eating anything you want but making poor choices of food will and can lead to clogged arteries, heart disease and a whole host of serious health problems. Some people who are thin cannot gain weight as hard as they try which can be bad for their health just like being overweight.
Thin people feel self conscious and ridiculed and judged just like overweight people do. So why would one group of mistreated people turn around and mistreat another group of people in the same position. I think it is because a lot of people judge others without knowing the life of the person they are judging.
I know this because I have recently met someone at the gym who is very thin and I envied how she looked and thought wow how lucky is she that she is so small and even thought wow I am working my behind off and she is too but she doesn't need to. Well after meeting her and talking to her I learned she needs to be there just as badly as I do. You see she has had a heart attack in the past at a very young age. She has always been naturally thin and so she believed she could eat anything she wanted because weight was not an issue for her.
Well, all that unhealthy eating and a lack of exercise clogged her arteries and she ended up having a major heart attack and subsequent heart surgery was needed and undergone. Her doctors told her eating healthy and exercise is important for everyone. It has nothing to do with weight. Being over weight is a result of bad food choices and over indulging. Having serious health issues can and does happen to everyone who does not take care of their bodies by eating healthy and getting proper exercise. She felt because she was thin she did not need to exercise or make healthy food choices. Her result was heart surgery. She learned this in a a very difficult manner.
As a result, she now exercises regularly, watches her calorie intake and makes healthy food choices. She really opened by eyes and I learned a very valuable lesson from her. I am grateful to have met her. We never know what someone else' s life is like or walked in their shoes. Therefore, it is wrong to just assume and prejudge anyone for being either overweight or thin. It is wrong to prejudge anyone for anything. People are so quick to form an opinion of others and it seems to always be an opinion based on envy, jealousy, anger, or other reasons. Whatever the reason, it is WRONG! Why not give others the benefit of all and any doubt and think the positive of and about them instead of stand in judgment of them!
Nobody likes or wants to be judged by others and assumed the worse of. I will NEVER do that again! You may remember in my last blog I mentioned the guy playing his air guitar and drums wailing his arms all over while working out? The day I went with my ipod uncharged and my pants on inside out.LOL Well, I did initially prejudge him as being a nut. Shame on me! Because I was at the gym today and I saw him again. I actually spoke to him and he is a VERY nice NORMAL person. He works out everyday and works a full time job. He also has a band and they are an Aerosmith imitating band. He sings and plays the part of Steven Tyler. One of the personal trainers told me he has seen him and his band and they are phenomenal! He just loves music and that gets him through his workouts. He was such a nice person to talk to.
So, I just wanted to share this with my spark friends because I know so many of us judge others unfairly at one time or another. We complain about being judged because of our weight yet, we do it to others. We find a way to justify it when we do it but it is unacceptable for it to be done to us. Not fair! How about we not judge at all! Lets give EVERYONE the same treatment that we want for ourselves.
SO, lets not wait for a serious health issue to force us into treating our bodies the way we should. Lets be proactive and continue this healthy lifestyle journey and keep moving to our goals. Keep exercising! If your not exercising, then START! Lets keep eating healthy and if your not START! We ALL deserve to be the best we can be and need to do our part to assure this happens. Be good to YOU! Be good to YOUR BODY! While we are at it Be GOOD to OTHERS!!!
Have a wonderful day my friends!