Failure - how do you handle it???
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
I know this is my 2nd blog today and normally I don't blog twice in the same day but I was listening to an old Jillian Michaels radio show (6/14/09) and I just wanted to get these thoughts down.
She said "Failure is the best teacher. If you are not failing you are not trying hard enough. Because we are so afraid to fail it paralyzes so many of us in our lives and prevents us from achieving the things that we want." She also mentioned that we should evaluate our failures and see what we can change or improve upon. Like with most things we have a choice to make. We can either think I am a failure. Look I failed again - big surprise there. I can never do anything. Or we can have an attitude of wow I took a chance how brave of me. What can I learn from this. How can I improve next time.
This is so inspiring and true. I still am afraid of failure and most of the time I am afraid to try new things because I am afraid I will make a fool of myself or I will tell myself that I cannot do that. This is a mentality that is hard to break but I am working through those fears.
A year and a half ago is when it really started. I was afraid I was having a heart attack or a stroke. Thank God that was not the case but it pushed me to go through my fears and join a gym. I was afraid at the gym. I did not know how to do or use anything. I was afraid I would look like a fool. I did get a trainer to show me how to use things and that did help a little but I still always felt like I was failing. I was never as good as any of the other people there. But I changed my attitude slowly. I started to think WOW look at what I am doing. I am walking on a treadmill. That is something I did not think I could do. WOW - look at some of the exercises I am trying and failing miserably at doing but I am doing it a little better than last time.
Then there was the moving on to boot camp. Telling myself am I ready for this? Can I do it? I am not as good as any of the other people there. But I pushed past those fears too and did it.
Then started the running. I told myself I cannot run. I still tell myself how bad I am at running. I started out very slowly and felt like a failure. But I kept pressing on. I tried to do a little better each day.
Next came my first race. It was just a 5k fun run but I was scared to death. I had never run outside before. I had never done a race before. I would make a fool of myself in front of so many other people. Here I was again afraid of failing. But I pushed past it and went and did the race. It felt great. I had overcome my fear of failing and had pushed through again. I am experiencing new things. It is wonderful.
Did I quit when I could barely walk on the treadmill and felt like I was failing - NO. Did I quit when my trainer gave (and continues to give) me exercises that I cannot do or can barely do - NO. Did I quit when I gave into temptation and failed on eating healthy - NO. Did I quit when I started bootcamp and could not make it all the way through - NO. Did I quit when I started running and failed at that also - NO. Did I quit when trying to do those really tough Jillian Michaels DVD's (and failing miserably I might add) - NO.
Where has not quitting and learning from my failures gotten me???? I have lost 125 lbs. I am healthier than I have ever been in my entire life. I am stronger now than I have ever been. I have more confidence now than I ever did. I know now that I can try anything and yes I will probably fail but if I keep at it I will get better. I can say WOW look at what I have done and how brave am I for trying that.
Now, what will I try (and fail at) next?????