Today someone said I was
Wednesday, August 05, 2009
Today I was talking with a co-worker who is going to have stomach reduction surgery in November. He was telling me that he was going to need some more time for himself as he dealt with the appointments, and counseling, and emotions of taking this step. As we talked, I made some comment about how hard it is to not eat, to lose weight. And he said, "What are you talking about, you are as skinny as a stick." And instead of denying it like I usually would (because right now, I'm not even at 'healthy weight' according to my BMI--6 more pounds to go.) Instead I said, "Thank you for saying that, because I work so hard at this." He said, "You do, I always think that it is easy for thin people." So I told him about how I bike from 1.5 to 2 hours--almost every day. And I told him how hard it was during the winter, when I gained back weight I had worked so hard to lose. And how I had fought back against discouragement--not to be skinny, but to be healthy. And I told him, he deserved the chance of good health, and a good life, that his weight loss surgery will give him. I told him what a good choice it was to take time for himself, because I could not have done this without deciding that I was worth the time it took. And he thanked me for telling him a story about how hard work paid off, because "I'm so committed to making this work."
So it felt good in lots of ways to be called "skinny" today.