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#51: No More

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

There are two words, among many, I believe we should eliminate from our conversations and our writings -- "only" and "just."

Think about how limiting these two words are. "I only walked for half an hour." "I'm just a bookkeeper."

We need to learn to show more pride in what we do. Consider adding "proud" to your vocabulary instead. "I'm proud that I walked for half an hour." "I'm proud to be a bookkeeper."

Which do you say of your young daughter acting in a play? "She's just the tree." Or, "I'm proud of her. She's the tree."

Or how about your son who made the school's football team. "He's only a backup fullback." Or, "I'm proud of him for making the team as the backup fullback."

Whatever we describe and how we describe it to ourselves and others reflects either our negative or our positive attitude. We want to eliminate as many negatives from our thinking as possible and add in more positives.

"I have just worked here for three months" or "I'm proud to say I've worked here for three months."

"I've only got two children" or "I'm proud to say I have a daughter and a son."

"I've only lost three pounds" or "I'm proud that I've lost three pounds."

I believe we can bring more positive forces into our lives by simply eliminating the use of "only" and "just." It may take some time to become conscious of using these self-limiting words but eventually we can if we remember to use the word "proud" instead.

I'm proud to say I am going to work to delete these words from my thinking. Will you join me?
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    This might take a little practice, but I'll begin right now....
    I'm proud to say I'm going to do my best to eliminate "just" and "only" from my vocabulary.
    Wow, that didn't even hurt! lol love, Darlene
    4212 days ago
    I'm proud of you, Lou! emoticon
    4212 days ago
    True, true!!
    4212 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    emoticon Post. A very good lesson in life!

    4213 days ago
  • SUGIRL06
    What a great post! I don't think you really need to eliminate those words. When you are thinking something negative, you have to reword it to be positive! I use only and just to motivate me. "I only have 5 minutes left to run. I can do it!" vs. "I already ran 20 minutes. I'm too tired for 5 more." You are right, "only" and "just" make things seem trivial, so use them in a way that makes you keep going! "I just have to do 10 more push ups and I'm done weight training today!" Great idea. And what a great way to pay attention to what you are telling yourself!
    4213 days ago
    I hadn't thought about this until your blog. I use them to get me doing more - not because I don't count what I do as important, but to keep myself going.

    Thanks for the ideas!
    4213 days ago
    What a great inspiration this morning! I think that you are right - I find myself saying those words frequently. I am going to work on this, and I will improve! Thanks for your thoughts!
    4213 days ago
    Great blog! It is so true how simple words can really affect what we do, how we think or how we process. I am on board with you. Every amount of effort should be acknowledged and felt. We need to give ourselves more credit than we do. Negative talk can turn into negative behavior and negative outcomes. We DO need to be PROUD as we become healthier, happier and content.
    4213 days ago
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