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Saturday, August 29, 2009

My heart & mind are filled with emotions. On December 18, 2007 my father-in-law was diagnosed with lymphoma. On August 19, 2009 he lost that battle. My DH & I have walked the entire journey with him.

This man has taught me so much. He taught me how to love - truly love - my mate. He never once in the 30 years that I have known him - raised his hand or voice in anger or frustration.

I feel an exteme loss for this man yet I know he is in a better place and he is now free of pain,yet the selfish part of me did not want to lose this man.

I now need to strart looking aftger myself as I have spent the last 20 months looking after & helping my Father in law & mother in law. I am afraid that I am falling into a funk as I have alread gained so much weight., The gift of life is not something we should take for granted.

I really need the help & support of my spark people friends.

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  • BETRME100
    I'm so sorry for your loss...it sounds is tho your father in law was a wonderful, loving man...what a blessing to have had him in your life. Allow yourself to grieve, but take care of yourself as well. Hugs my dear.

    4076 days ago
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I, like you have a similar story. My dad passed after succumbing to a long list of debilitating illnesses. And like your situation, my sister lived "too far away - and had a family" to take the time to spend with dad in his last weeks. I packed on the lbs as "comfort" for the long days as his caretaker. All I can say is that I am in the process of taking back control of my life - starting with my weight. I am doing this for me. Exercise seems to clear the mind and benefit the body. I am 16 weeks into my fitness program - and I am seeing the results. If you ever want to chat or need encouragement do not hesitate to look me up! Just remember there is no "quick fix" for a long term weight problem - this is a lifelong - lifechanging journey that begins with one step - not a destination.
    4077 days ago
  • no profile photo ALBA06
    i'm sorry for your loss and i know it must be hard for you when he was such a kind caring man . i understand the desire to turn to comfort food but you will only dislike yourself when you start feeling better. i lost my dad after a long battle in april. i not only felt the loss but my life was thrown in the air. i had been his sole caretaker for 6 years and then i sat with him in hospice for 9 months. i have four sisters but they didn't have time for him while he was alive but are drooling dogs waiting for their inheritance. i put on 40 lbs. and i am taking it off slowly , i wish it was faster, i want to be thin again but it takes time. i lost 2 lbs this week and i was glad, but it doesn't take away the sting of his death or my displacement in the world. when we lose someone where love it's hard to find our home again. good luck and if you need someone to listen, i'm here for you. emoticon melissa
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