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#79: Judge Not, Lest We Be Judged?

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

"Look at the weaknesses of others with compassion, not accusation. It's not what they're not doing or should be doing that's the issue. The issue is your own chosen response to the situation and what you should be doing. If you start to think the problem is "out there," stop yourself. That thought is the problem." -- Stephen Covey

Doesn't it seem far easier to judge others than ourselves?

Why can we see what another person "should" be doing when our own lives don't measure up to the same standard?

Judging ourselves, self-analysis if you will, is difficult largely because we do not wish to admit our faults. But to be human is to be imperfect. Why is that so hard for us to comprehend? Is it because deep inside we do not want to admit we are frail people who make mistakes? OK, we err sometimes. We have our faults. Isn't too strenuous an admission, is it?

It seems that we must admit our failings before we can begin to alter them and watch them evolve into positive characteristics.

Benjamin Franklin knew this. Before he was considered a great statesman he wasn't universally liked. It is said that he was somewhat brash and outspoken and possessive of other less than desirable personal attributes.

And Franklin realized that to become the person he wanted to be, he would need to change. He judged himself and found himself lacking in those characteristics that would attract others to him. He developed a method of concentrating on one fault each month and worked during that month to improve on that one personal deficiency.

We know the ending of the story because history has written about Franklin's greatness. Would it be so if he had continued on the path he was on rather than to judge himself and work on self-improvement? Likely not.

What if we do a self-analysis as Franklin did? Or ask close friends and acquaintances what deficiencies in our character they see and then work on improving one area of our lives for the better each month?

To do so will not take away from the essence of who we are, but will enhance who we are.

Yes, it's easier to judge others than ourselves. But remember, judge not, lest we be judged. Let's begin now on our individual self-improvement.

Here's to the new us.
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  • LINDA25427
    I know personally I am harder on myself then anyone else . I have been told to stop being so hard on myself and to stop second quessing my own decisions and to lighten up . My mind goes 24 --7 non stop it seems . I envy people that are so light hearted and don't seem to have a care . I am what others call a worry wart and don't seem to get much accomplished . I am working on trying to be a better person for God my creator , my family , friends and my self . I have always been a giving person , always putting myself last ... Am learning to put myself first and take care of me , so I have more to give to those around me phyically and mentally .
    Thank you for the reminder that we need to keep a open mind and heart at all times and never judge . God bless. emoticon emoticon
    4183 days ago
  • HOLLY1949
    The Bible does say to judge our self. I think many of us are harder on our self than we are on others ,and some of us need to lighten up a bit . To lighten up on myself or others I like to say "I am ok , your ok" and think of everyone being ok even though not perfect. One thing for sure , self improvement starts by judging where we are and where we want to go. Good Luck on your journey.
    4184 days ago
  • WALNUT5612
    Very good blog!!!
    4184 days ago
    Awesome post. We really do need to judge ourselves first, and try and see what others see when they look at us.
    4184 days ago
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