#79: Judge Not, Lest We Be Judged?
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
"Look at the weaknesses of others with compassion, not accusation. It's not what they're not doing or should be doing that's the issue. The issue is your own chosen response to the situation and what you should be doing. If you start to think the problem is "out there," stop yourself. That thought is the problem." -- Stephen Covey
Doesn't it seem far easier to judge others than ourselves?
Why can we see what another person "should" be doing when our own lives don't measure up to the same standard?
Judging ourselves, self-analysis if you will, is difficult largely because we do not wish to admit our faults. But to be human is to be imperfect. Why is that so hard for us to comprehend? Is it because deep inside we do not want to admit we are frail people who make mistakes? OK, we err sometimes. We have our faults. Isn't too strenuous an admission, is it?
It seems that we must admit our failings before we can begin to alter them and watch them evolve into positive characteristics.
Benjamin Franklin knew this. Before he was considered a great statesman he wasn't universally liked. It is said that he was somewhat brash and outspoken and possessive of other less than desirable personal attributes.
And Franklin realized that to become the person he wanted to be, he would need to change. He judged himself and found himself lacking in those characteristics that would attract others to him. He developed a method of concentrating on one fault each month and worked during that month to improve on that one personal deficiency.
We know the ending of the story because history has written about Franklin's greatness. Would it be so if he had continued on the path he was on rather than to judge himself and work on self-improvement? Likely not.
What if we do a self-analysis as Franklin did? Or ask close friends and acquaintances what deficiencies in our character they see and then work on improving one area of our lives for the better each month?
To do so will not take away from the essence of who we are, but will enhance who we are.
Yes, it's easier to judge others than ourselves. But remember, judge not, lest we be judged. Let's begin now on our individual self-improvement.
Here's to the new us.