A Life Changing 24 Hours
Friday, October 23, 2009
This blog is not meant to be inspiring or anything. It just is what it is.
A week ago, my husband would have been considered one of the healthiest people around. No heart trouble, diabetes, obesity, NOTHING. Today - he is an insurance risk. But he is alive! That is the important thing.
He had been having a series of odd health issues the past 2 months, but nothing to get majorly excited about, but things were starting to add up. Thank God, it isn't cancer anyway! He's had 2 bouts of very painful sciatica, 2 bouts of pneumonia, lost a tooth, had a mysterious nerve problem in his arm. Tuesday, after sitting talking with his secretary at IHOP for a couple of hours, he got up & his leg felt "funny". It felt swollen, but it wasn't. Felt the same on Wed, & he had trouble sleeping due to that & other mild body discomforts. Thursday, he got out working on his feet all day, & low & behold, his leg WAS swollen. He was due for a recheck chest xray on the pneumonia, so I got him a Fri morning appt for that & to have his leg checked out. In the meantime, I called the nurse at his doctors, & had her call him to check his symptoms. They sent him to ER, as they have sonograms, CT scans, anything that might be needed.
My husband has a blood clot in his left leg, from his groin to the middle of his calf, & a "significant" blood clot in each lung. And except for the swelling in his leg - he felt FINE. They THINK he is going to be ok, but will be on blood thinners for the rest of his life. The people I know who have been through this all testify that this isn't a simple thing. There will be many blood tests & trips to the doctor, etc etc. The hospital & related bill alone will probably be hundreds of thousands of dollars. We were struggling financially before & actually already sucked under in many areas - only managing to keep our house, utilites, phones etc (thank God) - but in Survival Mode. Now this. The mind reels. I haven't been thinking that much about the MONEY the past 24 hours - only his health, & the suspense of what they were going to tell us, & that we were doing what had to be done & thankful that things were caught in time. But when reality sinks in - meds - doctors visits - etc & on & on. It's been a struggle to even pay for ONE doctor's visit! Seriously! The whole thing is kind of mind blowing.
I wish we were one of those admirable families they have on the home Makeovers show on TV, that has given alot to the community & some magic TV show & hundreds of people come in & help them. (fantasy) But we are average Americans. self-employed, with a crap-load of business debt from a midlife career change that promised us wealth, & at which we made alot of mistakes. My husband is the most optimistic, positive thinking person I know, & he probably really is my "better-half" in many ways. I never dreamed that it would be his health that would be crashing - always thought mine might be some kind of problem as we aged. Nobody looking at him can hardly believe he's 53, to be 54 next month.
I guess the lesson to anyone,would be to take FULL advantage of today, as 24 hours can change your entire life.
Also, & this may sound odd - but my husband is in the life insurance business - thanks goodness he at least got a small policy already. AFTER you get something wrong with you - you cannot GET decent health OR life insurance without it costing an arm & a leg. And many times, not even then. Nooo - you're not insurable at all. So one day it's - tra la la la la - I'm fine, I'm young - I can get life insurance next year..... the next day it's so sad, too bad. And yes, life insurance is important! What the living H??? is a persons family supposed to do when a person is gone? Even if it isn't the main "breadwinner" that unexpectedly passes - how the heck is the "breadwinner" supposed to work &/or take care of kids &/or keep the house when he or she is grieving their brains out??!! My husband isn't into "selling life insurance", but rather "protecting families". I know I don't express myself well - what's in my heart. But if people would realize they aren't invincable!! (Like I probably think I am) And think it through about what would actually happen to their families if something happened to them, & realize that it can't wait, because 24 hours can change a life forever.