Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Vandal sent me a lilnk to a Spark article about motivation today; he probably sent it to his thousands of readers as well. BUT -- it was absolutely SPOT ON for me.
I worked late. I didn't eat a lot today and I was tired and cranky. On my way home I called TC. The conversation went something like this:
Nameless Party #1: I sure would like a glass of wine.
Nameless Party #2: Yeah, me too.
NP#1: But we said we wouldn't.
NP#2: Yeah, I know, but...
NP#1: How about we have tea instead of wine?
NP#2: Yeah, I guess that would be OK...
OK, I've sanitized the conversation so you don't know whether I was the saint or the sinner!Now where does the article Vandal sent fit in? Well, here's a section I cut and pasted:
"If you don't do what you the things you should, it doesn't mean you aren't motivated. It just means that you want two different and opposing things, and you have to make a decision....In the long run you’ll do better if you acknowledge that the choice is yours to make. You can choose either option, without making excuses or inventing a theory like “lack of motivation” to justify it. Then, pay attention to how you feel about the choice you made, and decide whether that is how you want to feel most of the time. "
OK, me again. That's exactly what happend as I struggled with whether to stop to buy wine. I wrestled with wanting two opposite and opposing things--continuing my good streak or giving in to a craving. I KNEW I WAS GOING TO MAKE A CONSCIOUS CHOICE, AND I KNEW I WOULD FEEL CRAPPY IN THE LONG RUN if I made the wrong choice.
I didn't stop, and I have to admit that when I got home I was STILL feeling regret! But the Chai tea was already made, and by the time I had a cup I was fine.
The article is right--we have to make our Plan B's. We have to acknowledge that these "bad" choices aren't happening to us. We are making CONSCIOUS CHOICES, no matter which way we choose. Just ask yourself, are you going to feel good about yourself after this choice or not?
I am glad that I resisted the urge. At least today I made a good decision, and I'm hoping to build that momentum to continue to make good decisions tomorrow.
I've tried to paste the link in the blog, but that's not working. If you want the link, please email me or Vandal. It's really a GREAT article!
Until tomorrow, make those choices that take you closer to your TRUE GOAL!