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#138: How Do You Deal With Negative News?

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Today on my Friend Feed I wrote, "Don't let negatives get you down."

After receiving depressing news today, I've fighting to not let the negative overcome my normal positive thinking.

Those of you who read my blog submissions know that I rarely talk about myself and my situation, preferring to compose messages that I hope are encouraging and inspiring. But now I must use this forum to vent my frustration.

Here's the situation: In March I applied for disability due to severe bone spurs in both heels, nerve damage to my left foot, degenerated discs in my lower back and other physical problems. The upshot is that it is difficult to stand or walk for more than 10 minutes without pain. Added to the mix is obesity and sleep apnea which is contributing to bouts of insomnia and sleep of one-two hours then being awake for a few hours, etc., so during the day I fall asleep in front of the computer and even while stopped in the car for red lights.

My judgment was and is that at least for the present it is difficult, if not impossible, to find full-time work considering the inability to stand and walk and to stay focused for eight hours a day. So, after 40 years of working I applied for help.

The application was initially denied, but none of the physical problems were considered. An appeal was recently also denied, but once again the physical problems were not considered. This decision said I was claiming a cardiac condition which isn't true, anxiety which isn't true and brittle diabetes. I've had diabetes for two years and have never heard the term brittle. I don't know what that means and so never claimed it.

The next step was to ask for a hearing before an administrative law judge. The letter I received today said Social Security statistics show it takes an average of 527 days to have a hearing set. Who knows how long after that for an actual hearing and decision?

How is a person expected to survive for so long in the face of such incompetence which, incidentally, was what I wrote about yesterday?

I don't have an answer. I'm worried and feel my mood sinking into despair but am trying to follow my advice and not let the negative get me down. But it is. Thinking of losing the house and what else follows from not having sufficient income has given me a migraine.

I have several vacant lots in FL for sale but no offers. The same with two burial plots I inherited. No offers.

I am at the end of my rope and don't know how to hold on longer.

I'll try to be more upbeat tomorrow. But for now I see no positive solution to a situation brought about by government incompetence.

This is likely the most personal I'll get with these daily blogs but I truly need to know how others in similar situations have coped or are coping.

Please feel comfortable Spark mailing me if you don't want to post a public reply.

Thanks for allowing me to vent. Have a blessed weekend.
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  • no profile photo CD5594611
    In a nutshell you need a lawyer. emoticon
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  • VICIOUS421
    Have never been there myself but my dad had MS and when he applied for disability he had to go through the process 3 times which took forever and finally got a lawyer to get through the 3rd time. It really irked me that other people that may not really need it seem to have no problems getting disability while others who really do need it run into endless red tape.
    4123 days ago
    Lou, I had to apply three times before I was approved for SSDI. I went to the social security office on my own time and pleaded my case to a few different workers there, well I was a teen so my mother was with me and I don't know that that helped me at all but it certainly didn't hurt. It's a different situation but just know that when you do win it will be retroactive to when you first applied or at least it was for me. I think it is that way for everyone.
    Getting a disability attorney is a good idea, I know in my state they advertise on television all the time. You might want to do some research on a few different attorneys though and make sure they do not get paid until you win your case.
    PEACE...ANDRAXIA emoticon
    4123 days ago
    Consider contaccting the Advocacy center for Persons with Disability for assistance/guidance with your SSDI application (http://www.advocacycenter.org/Tele
    phoneContacts.htm). Good luck, cash flow problems are extremely stressful.
    4123 days ago
    Sorry to hear about your situation. Incompitence is rampant when trying to get help. And these idiots want to run health care! Lord help us all.
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  • LINDA25427
    I was turned down too I appleid 3 different times. I will just wait until I'm 62 and try again . Hope and pray everything works out for you . The first time I applied for it I was intitled to over 7 hundred and some dollars amonth now they are saying since I haven't worked for over 4 yrs its down to 3 hundred and something a month I don't know how they can do that in 2 years I might not have anything and I worked for it .. I would love to get a check each month now that my husband is retired and were living on about 1/3 of what he was bringing home ,and still have the same bills . Stay positive and hang in there with me . God bless. emoticon
    4124 days ago
    I have health problems too and have been turned down many times but never followed up. I am a women of faith but those people intentially will provoke you. I did not go after them because I do not need the hassle. I know of a women who has tried to disability for about 20 years. I wish you the best but you will have a battle on your hands. There is a person who will stick closer than a brother. His name is Jesus and that is who I trust in....not people. I pray you find strength to carry on. Do not let their decision get you down. I think they want people to get discouraged and stop trying. I stopped cause I felt it was right for me for now.
    4124 days ago
    Lou, is there a legal aid office or a legal group who helps those who are former LEOs that you know of? If not, look in the phone book for those lawyers who specialize in disability hearings. There are steps that can be taken to hasten the process. I truly believe they hope someone will die before their appeal is heard and they actually have to return some of the money you paid into the system for decades. You need legal assistance. Whether that's through the VA (if you were in the military) or FOP or similar organizations matters not. Legel help is what you need to keep them from hanging you out to dry and doing so illegally. I am praying for God Himself to give you favor in these things, opening doors that no man can shut. You remain in my heart and prayers.
    4124 days ago
    Lou, I have been battling making decisions about the same issues for 5 years. I find it horrendous that some people, who have no problems, can get so much assistance, and get it immediately; while others, like you, me , and several other people I know can't get help.

    My best advice to you is to get a Disability Lawyer. Yes, I know that they charge a fee if you win; but it sounds to me like you need someone to help you fight this battle.

    I was sneered at, literally, by the lady sitting behind the desk when I turned in my paperwork to appeal the initial decision. She said such hateful things to me that it discouraged me from pursuing it. Now, I am to the place where I am ready to seek the assistance of an attorney.

    I will keep your situation in my prayers.

    God bless you;
    4124 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    You have always been so encouraging to me. When you need me, I don't know what to say. Just know that I care and that personally I fully believe that things happen for a reason. It's not what is happening TO YOU , but how you REACT to the things. Be positive. I remember hearing a show on Oprah, not that she's my favorite person, but they were saying IF you lose your house, so what. If you lose your Possessions, so what. They are only things. Your Life is important. take control of what you can and as God for wisdom to deal with things as they arise. Have faith.

    I pray for you and that your ability to help others will also have helped you. Sit down and write a letter to a person asking and venting the things you have and see what your reaction to them would be and what you would tell them.

    I know you have many answers inside you... Just look.

    Here for you, to hold a hand. Praying that you find solace in the One who Consoles.


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    4124 days ago
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