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#187: Irresponsibility Takes Lives

Saturday, January 02, 2010

I apologize in advance, but this will not be my normally uplifting blog message. Rather it is one that asks you to be responsible and alert when driving. As with many things in life, we can do everything proper and correct and still suffer. This afternoon I've been recalling with sadness and happy memories the loss of a dear relative after reading MUSICLVR2675's blog about losing her good friend, Wes, to a drunk driver. Her blog link is:
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
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Reading of the irresponsible behavior of the driver that caused that crash brought back vivid memories of October 29, 2004. On that night, about 7:45, on a rural road 45 miles northwest of Indianapolis, Indiana, a relative was also killed by a driver who was drunk and alcohol impaired.

Ryan, my relative, was only 19, a straight-A freshman student at Wabash College. He was also an accomplished singer and dancer who had performed at Walt Disney World in Florida and other places. He wanted to be a physician. But he never had the chance to fulfill his dream. Because another person was irresponsible.

In 2007, at the request of a Florida judge, and in honor of Ryan and other victims of careless and reckless drivers, I produced a highway safety video: Marker Memories Part I: A Journey to Understanding. The link to it is:
blutube.policeone.com/me
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This was an all-volunteer effort so no one benefits financially if you watch it. The driver talked about in the video's second interview was 16 when he drove 78 in a 45 mph zone, reached for his cell phone on the floor of his truck and rear-ended the car of a 67-year-old woman who was waiting for a red light to change. He knocked her car more than 400 feet past the intersection, killing her. He recently got out of jail and will live with his actions for the rest of his life.

So, while this message is somber, it is also a reflection of the many people whose lives have been turned upside down because of circumstances not under their control.

Kind of puts losing a few pounds in a different perspective, doesn't it?

Please, don't drive stupid. And, when you see a roadside memorial marker showing where someone lost their life in a crash, say a prayer for the family and friends of the deceased.

Please, too, continue to work hard on reaching your fitness goals. But remember that in the big scheme of life, losing weight is not as everlasting as losing a relative or a good friend.
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  • LESLIES537
    Excellent video. Congratulations on the awards! emoticon
    3731 days ago
  • MOGAL1946
    This is so true and a great reminder during this time of the year and in these bad weather driving conditions. My former husband & I lost our 14 year old son one day before his 15th birthday due to an impaired driver (23 years ago). The pain of this loss never goes away, not only for those who lost a loved one, but for those whose bad choices caused the loss. My daughter, granddaughter & I are now active in a high school program SADD (Students Against Destructive Decisions). Please practice making wise chocies.
    4073 days ago
  • GOODHEALTH4EVER
    I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I THANK YOU FOR SHARING ABOUT YOUR LOVED ONE AND REMINDING US ALL TO BE SAFE!
    WOW, THIS BLEW ME AWAY...THE VIDEO IS WELL DONE AND I THINK THE MARKER SYSTEM FL. IS USING IS WONDERFUL. IN MY STATE RELATIVES PUT UP CROSSES, BUT THEY ARE LOW TO THE GROUND AND OFTEN NOT SEEN BY THE DRIVER. THESE MARKERS ARE AT EVE LEVEL AND HAVE A SAFETY MESSAGE ALONG WITH HONORING THE PERSON THAT LOST THEIR LIFE!

    YES, WE ALL HAVE TO BE MINDFUL WHEN WE ARE DRIVING. WHEN I TOOK DRIVERS EDU. IN SCHOOL YEARS AGO, THEY STRESSED THAT YOU ARE DRIVING A LETHAL WEAPON...

    THANKS AGAIN FOR SHARING.

    4074 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/3/2010 5:37:47 AM
  • no profile photo CD4114015
    The first time I saw this video, I passed it on to all I care about and believed the memory of it would never grow cool but upon watching it again I realized that it is so worth watching every so often to remember the pain others go through so often. I do always remember when I see the marker memorials that somewhere "out there" is a person or family in deep pain. Thanks for the reminder and sharing this awesome film again. I am so sorry for your loss and pray for your peace. And yes, it does put my fitness goals into perspective.
    Thanks, Lou
    4074 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6035648
    So sorry for your loss. My son is currently without a license for his stupidity. People just don't realize the consequences of their actions and how they can affect the lives of others, some in very tragic ways.. At 19, my son thinks he's invincible..If you don't mind I'm going to have him read your blog post and view the video.. Thank you for sharing..
    4074 days ago
  • PATTYCAKE49
    Something that we need to be reminded of at this time of year.

    Sorry for your loss.
    4074 days ago
  • LINDA25427
    So sorry for your loss.
    My son and nephew both lost their license for driving under the influence.I thank God that they have never caused any accidents and that no one has gotten hurt .My heart goes out to the families all of them who are involved in these tragedies because their lives will never be the same . emoticon
    4074 days ago
  • YATMAMA
    When I first heard of this film I sent it to about 200 friends and it so bears repeating that I will do so again. Thank you for this important work.
    4074 days ago
  • SPARKROZ
    Thank you for this blog!!!
    4074 days ago
  • KLASSIE
    This was somber but pertinent. A few hours ago a friend was driving on I95 in Maryland when suddenly traffic slowed to a crawl. When he passed the accident there was a car on its side in a ditch and another, smashed but upright, at the side of the highway. We must be careful on the road and try our best to drive responsibly. Thanks for the reminder and I'll check out the links.
    4074 days ago
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