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#198: Who Took the Fun Out of Life?

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

A few evenings ago I watched a young boy, perhaps 4 years old, at a restaurant. He had such a fun time with everything he did, especially when he ordered a cheeseburger without the cheese.

"So you want a hamburger?" the waitress asked.

"No," he giggled, "I want a cheeseburger without the cheese," and he burst out laughing. "Pleeeeaaassseee," he quickly added.

The server and those seated nearby also burst out with smiles and laughter.

As I watched this young man, I noticed that he enjoyed absolutely everything about being in the restaurant -- the balloon he was given, the coloring book and crayons, the French fries that he marched like soldiers through the ketchup.

But it was the look of pure fun on his face that made the night special.

Then I began to wonder -- who took the fun out of our lives?

If we, as adults, were to order a cheeseburger without the cheese, the server would likely think we were bring smart-alecky. So why is it a cute event when a youngster does it but an act of immaturity if done by an adult?

And, if we, as adults, were to ask for a balloon and coloring book? Better call out the straitjackets and take us away for we would be viewed as abnormal.

How many times do you walk past plants outside of a business and reach out to touch the leaves, simply to feel their texture and marvel at their color?

How much time do you spend in your yard watching the clouds pass by? Or any of the other things we did as children to pleasantly while away the hours?

No, can't do those things now. We're adults. We're grown up. People will think we are immature and acting silly and not acting our age if we do silly things.

So sad when you think about it, isn't it? Random moments for fun run through our daily lives and we refuse to take advantage of them because of what other people might think.

Well, I do reach out to stroke the plants and still sit outside to watch the clouds and even play chase with the dogs. Pure, innocent enjoyable times. I refuse to let others take the fun out of my life. Even it is watching the world through the eyes of a four year old.

How about you?
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    Lou - you're great!

    You remind me a lot of my Dad. He doesn't care one bit about what others think of him. He bought a bike for my son (when my son was turning 2, so a small bike) and rode it through the store on the way to the check-out stand. When I got engaged, he asked, "Do I have to wear a monkey suit to give you away?" I said yes, but quickly reminded myself that he probably would find a monkey suit and show up to my wedding in it. I told him not to do that. Well - come rehearsal dinner...my Dad showed up in the church parking lot in a full out monkey suit on his motorcycle. (Keep in mind, he is 6'2" and it was 98 degrees outside!) LOL I just adore watching my Dad explore the world and have the best time he can.

    Keep up the positive attitude, Lou! God sure did make something special in you, didn't he?

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    Actually, that was my New Year's Resolution, to do something fun once a month. I think as adults we've allowed ourselves to become so over burdened with the responsibilities of life that all of the joy has disappeared. Well, I for one want that joy back! Maybe I'll go to the local diner and order a cheeseburger without the cheese... lol
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  • WALEB1002
    Great blog!!! I know exactly what you mean. i have two boys...a 3 year old and a 7 month old,and i stay home with them, so i act silly and child-like constantly...and i love it! my 3 year old likes to sit out on the porch at night and look at the stars and see how high he can get counting them before they mix together and he has to start all over...but we love to play hide n seek in the house, wrestling on floor, make silly faces and talk in silly voices! Im much happier acting like a 3 year old, then i am adult! :)
    4065 days ago
    I retired from a job where I worked with children ages 0 - 12/13. One thing I learned is to enjoy every moment you can. Take it all in.

    Sometimes I can be walking down the sidewalk but I am skipping in my heart with a smile on my face and people will sometimes just give me a look for smiling....others will smile back. (I am looking forward to the day that I can actually skip again, hee,hee.)

    I too, stop by a beautiful tree or flower to take in it's beauty. Living in Colorado, I have been known to pull off the road just to look at the mountains when they are having a particularly beautiful day.

    I like to chew bubble gum and blow bubbles. I like to smile at strangers and say hi to them....it really is interesting some of the responses or looks you can get. I don't stand still while waiting in line. If I am at a playground, you may see me swinging or sliding down the slide.

    Having worked so many years with children.....thankfully.....I am still in touch with my child inside.....she likes to have fun!
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    We've always had a house full of kids. That was easy.

    Now there are none, but we still race through the house hollering "Come see this caterpillar!" We still go to the park to eat lunch. The good thing about being a grown up is that you can race a child to the swings and win. (But you also know how to take turns!!!)

    I've noticed sideways glances from the adults when our antics go public. I hope we remain forever a child at heart.
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    i am thankful i have kids, it makes it easier to color, or play on the playground or go sledding, but it does make me wonder when the merriment will end. i am such a goof off and get in tickle fights with my husband at least once a month,and playfully tease with friends regularly. maybe i am lucky, my friends are like kids we are forever stuck as 16 years old in our heads but work like adults, this weekend we are going to an indoor water facility for a little slides and water basketball. exercise and fun. good luck!
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    Yep, I am right there with you, Lou. I also enjoy the clouds outside and the stars at night on a clear night AND I LOVE to color (glad to see I am not alone), it is so relaxing even though I don't have anyone that will color with me anymore.

    It is always great how your blogs make us think. Thanks,
    4065 days ago
    Ooh, how right you are! but I still color, and even have my own color books. It is therapeutic, stress relieving to just lie on my tummy and color.

    And yes, I do reach out and feel the leaves and flowers. Perhaps that is because I am a gardener, and I love plants. Maybe it is because I enjoy nature, the beautiful, wondrous gifts G-d has given us. In my family, I am always the one to notice the change in the leaves, the clouds, the temperature. It is all glorious!

    On top of all that, I like it when people do not treat me like an "old lady." That "Miss Laurie" thing has got to go!!! Even if all the physical things I do at work don't help me to be seen as a person rather than "older," perhaps I should bring a color book to the break room at lunch.

    How are you feeling, Lou?
    4065 days ago
    Good grief--sorry, Lou!
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    Uh oh!
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    Comment edited on: 1/13/2010 11:47:03 PM
    It is a wonderful thing to keep the wonder and amusement of childhood alive within us! Such a sad thing that the world doesn't see it that way. Great blog, Lou.
    4065 days ago
    Even the year before my mother died, she would get on the floor and color with my oldest, who was a toddler at the time. My brother, now in his sixties, still gets down on the floor and plays cars with his grandsons. At the family Christmas party, I spent a portion of my time at the table playing Connect Four with my great-niece, Katie, who is three. I pray we always have children in our family so we never lose the joy of playfulness. Even Jesus recognized the importance of being childlike when He admonished us to come as little children. Such wisdom from our Beloved. Thank you again for another fine blog.
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  • TEDYBEAR2838
    Yup, you don't stop laughing because you grow old, you grow old, because you stop laughing!

    4065 days ago
    The innocence f children is magical. I'm glad you got to see it.
    4065 days ago
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