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#200: Life Is For Living

Friday, January 15, 2010

Several years ago, within 2 1/2 months, we lost three members of our small family.

First, on October 29, nineteen-year-old Ryan was killed in Indiana when an impaired driver crossed the road and hit Ryan's car. Those of us here in Florida couldn't go to his funeral because Mom was severely ill and in the hospital.

On December 21, Mom passed away. Relatives in Indiana couldn't come here for her funeral because her brother, my last uncle, Bud, Ryan's grandfather, was gravely ill. He died on January 13.

It was, and is, a sad time of year for us.

But now, since that period has passed on for another year, I can focus on living a life they would have been proud of:

Volunteering to help others, rescuing stray dogs and cats, trying to uplift as many people as I can through SparkPeople and overall being a responsible, mostly mature adult.

If it's true that life is for the living, then let's make the most of our time left on earth.

Why spend it in depression? Yes, times are tough, but we can still be happy for what we do have.

Anger? Bitterness? Hatred? Why bother with negative emotions? As we found out -- Dad died at 48, sister Diane at 51, two uncles at 42 and 44 -- life often comes to an unexpected and early end.

Yes, they are all in a better place without pain and misery and those of us remaining recall them with love.

But to honor them, and your lost ones, we need to be upbeat and positive and follow what the Boy Scouts taught me so many decades ago:

A Scout is:

Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean and Reverent.

Leading this kind of life may be the highest honor we can bestow on loved ones who have passed on.

Won't you try?
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  • LESLIES537
    3733 days ago
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    What an uplifting and refreshing blog. I love your positive attitude, even in the face of grief. It is true that life is short and very unpredictable, and it is best to keep moving forward, do the best you can for as many God's creatures as possible. You are very wise to stay busy and positive at this time, but also make sure you cry when you feel like crying. I am really proud of you, what a great role model for others who are dealing with personal issues. Thank you for sharing.
    4060 days ago
    Oh, Lou, what a difficult time for your entire family. I truly understand that kind of grief avalanche. My oldest niece, Jenie, died at 27. Mama died 11 months later. Daddy died 18 months after Mama. It just leaves you reeling. You are SO right. Life is meant to be LIVED.

    Mama was a Cub and then Boy Scout den mother. When my youngest brother joined the older two in joining the Navy in 1963, there was an article in the New Orleans Picayune about all three of them being in the Navy and all three having been Eagle Scouts. Those are values we hold very dear in our family. Thank you for proclaiming them. They are most important. My brothers recently attended the 50 year birthday of their troop. It's amazing how many of their old pals are still local and attended. What fun for them!
    4061 days ago
    I got goosebumps reading this. First my condolences for the sorrow you have experienced. And than a thank you for sparking your light to show me how to live when things touch me that are unexpected. And, a big YES to living my life as a Scout!!!
    4062 days ago
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    lou you are so right. i had a pretty similar scenario a few years back, three in a row, with no way to go, and it did lead to a depression. one that i believe left me worried, full of anxiety, and eating my way through my fears. i am now trying to regroup from that, hopefully your positive words keep someone from going through what i went through...
    4062 days ago
    I enjoyed this blog, Lou. I know there are chemical/physical reasons some people suffer from depression, and I do not diminish that in any way. I also know there ae a lot of people who want to hang on to their sadness, anger, bitterness, etc. And life is just too short to do that.

    Our way of thinking makes all the difference. Of course, when something happens (loss of a loved one, natural disaster, loss of job, etc.) it is upsetting. We just don't have to let it keep us in a negative frame of mind. We always have choices to make, and yes, I choose to be Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean and Reverent.

    Thanks for a great blog.

    4062 days ago
    This is a good post but you need to remember that sometimes depression trul is a chemical and physical disease, not just a choice.
    4062 days ago
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    Thank you for this post, it was a tough week for me with the anniversary of the death of my son..
    Sorry for your losses.. emoticon
    4063 days ago
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    How awful that was to lose 3 close family members in such a short time. I am sorry for the pain it caused you and the memory that still causes pain. You are definitely correct that you did focus on and achieve living a life they would have been proud of! You are definitely a personthat I am proud I know and thankful to God for connecting us on this great site!
    4063 days ago
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