I met an interesting lady this afternoon, a psychotherapist. We talked about the major type of problems she counsels patients on. Depression was number one, although the reasons for the depressions were varied.
I asked if her patients had any traits in common and she replied by telling me a story of her son, a high-school student who is studying forces -- gravity, inertia, etc. -- and told her about a class he'd had where the class lesson was that a rope can't be steered.
There must have been a confused look on my face because she explained that a rope simply is, it doesn't move unless some force, a person for example, applies some force to it such as swinging it. Then she related a story of a man pulling a rope behind him down a street. A woman asked why he was pulling a rope. He replied, "Did you ever try to push one?"
"But what does a rope have to do with your patients?" I asked.
It's simple," she said. "Too many people are trying to move an inanimate object without applying force. They want things to change, but aren't willing to put forth the effort needed to make things change. They are trying to steer the rope without applying force to it."
She smiled and continued, "Many people want to change their appearance, their income, their relationships, whatever, but do not want to apply the effort needed to make an improvement."
Then, specifically related to weight loss, she explained that a mere wish for a change is like watching a rope lying on the ground. Just watching it does nothing. A person must grab the rope and swing it, apply force, to get it to move, to change it, so to speak.
So the obvious question becomes, "If you truly want to change, are you making a sincere effort at altering your eating and exercise habits
, or are you trying to steer a rope