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#247: Judge Not Lest We Be Judged

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

Isn't people watching fun? At a mall, a library, the beach, in church, wherever people gather. It's interesting to note the various clothes they wear, the way they walk and talk and carry themselves, their hairstyles, their attitudes.

Imagine for a moment that you were asked to judge people's personalities by these type of factors. Could you do it?

An except from the upcoming book, "The Search for the Authentic Self" by Erica Boucher, has a particularly interesting excerpt that asks readers to watch people and notice the almost automatic tendency to make judgments about them.

She asks observers to feel how they have been trained to judge, to make others wrong somehow, or less important or even better than us in some way. We automatically categorize others in our minds.

But if we could peel away the outer layers to reveal the true person inside, who would we see? A person brought up in a caring, supportive environment who posses a healthy self-image emoticon or one who was neglected and never received positive reinforcement, leading to a lack of self-esteem emoticon?

Those of us who are or were overweight know what it is like to be judged unfairly solely on our appearance, to hurt from the senseless comments and stares of other people. Oh, sure, many overweight people became famous -- Jackie Gleeson, Carol O'Connor (Archy Bunker), singer Kate Smith and others -- but what of the overweight people who are not celebrities?

For them, they are judged, not by their comedic abilities or singing voices, but by their lack of ability to fit within one tiny airplane seat (see TSABONIS's blog at: www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
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or in a restaurant booth, or in a swim suit.

These superficial judgments do not penetrate the outer layers of a person's physical self to reveal their personality, their skills and abilities, passions, commitment to helping others, skill in writing or cooking or playing a musical instrument or compassion in caring for the wounded and infirm.

It's sad that the world is so quick to judge because of a person's appearance. But, as author Boucher suggests: Shine the light of compassion on people, energetically embracing them emoticon, seeing them as another innocent soul.

Do this with everyone who walks by regardless of size, shape, color, behavior, social status or attitude. Feel how loving others results in true joy as we let down our walls of separation and our defenses and as we stop judging others.

Judge not lest we be judged.

As true today as it was thousands of years ago.
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  • SINGLEMOM1960
    I love to people watch. It's one of my favorite pastimes. At the beach, a restaurant, the mall. I can't help it, people are so fascinating to watch. Some times I do catch myself judging them. Maybe not so much as judging but creating a scenario in my mind of what got them to that point at that exact moment. Totally fictional, but fun. Summing them up. Is that judging?
    4015 days ago
  • SPARKLOVE
    The false belief that "I am separated from others", leads to fighting and wars. We are all related to one another. Everyone is physically related to each other. We are all cousins . It does not matter what color you are or where you live- we are all related. There would be less hate in this world if we did not feel this detachment from one another. We are all a piece of God.
    Joy
    4016 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4114015
    Thank you so much for this, Lou. My son that weighs near 400 pounds and has lost a fiance and job and mow is losing his home is looked down on in public and it just hurst me so badly. I try to go out and talk to the "outcasts" I see at the stores. Ultimately we are all beautifule in God's eyes.
    4016 days ago
  • CINDYHOUGHTON
    This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Not so much on appearance, but because of what we have done. My daughter is a felon and will never be given a second chance by society because that is all they can see. She is a great salesman, but will never be able to get a sales job. All she can do is waitress. And we wonder why they end up back in jail and prison so many times. Thanks bro. You are so right.
    4016 days ago
  • ALEXTHEHUNN
    Great reminder!
    4016 days ago
  • JUSTDUCKY1405
    Amen!
    4017 days ago
  • GIBBLES5
    Lou, another fabulous blog.

    This is such a touchy topic for some people, I always think about if I could walk a mile in someone's shoes. Their life might not be as nice as I might think it is.

    Thanks for sharing such insight to the world, as always!!!!!!!!!!


    4017 days ago
  • HAPPYWRITER7
    Thanks for the reminder Lou. You know what gets me sometimes? How easy it is for some of us who have been judged our whole lives to judge other people, just as quickly and unfairly. (Not all, but some, self included). Sometimes, it becomes so commonplace, we don't even realize it, but it's such a wonderful thing when we do and work and pray to avoid it.
    4017 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    Excellent Blog. I know I TRY not to judge, but I find myself doing it and I say, "Lord, am I really judging them?" then ask forgiveness.

    It's so nice to know we Have that forgiveness, we just have to ask.


    4017 days ago
  • PEPPERLEAH
    Lou! Another amazing blog! What you have said is so true; we live in a world of people that have been taught to be judgemental. Often times that translates into cruelty and harsh remarks. I see this happen every day. I pray daily that I don't judge people.

    Thank you for this blog!
    4017 days ago
  • YATMAMA
    That is SO powerful and SO true. I accept that challenge!!
    4017 days ago
  • DAWNWATERWOMAN
    What a wonderful blog! Thanks for sharing it with us. I love the idea of sharing our compassion with all people. Love to you my friend, Dawn
    4017 days ago
  • BIGDAD1211
    Amen! And it is so easy to judge people too, but remember as we judge, so are we judged!
    Thanks Lou!
    4017 days ago
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