#255: Things Have a Way of Working Out
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Two weeks ago I posted a blog about the melancholy and the ambivalence I felt over a request by an elderly friend to stay with me while he and his wife tried to reconcile.
I was torn between loyalty to the friendship and concern that he needed more daily care than I was prepared to offer.
Today we had lunch together and his hands shook so badly he spilled the creamer trying to pour it into his coffee. He doesn't see well and is concerned about being able to continue driving. His back causes him such pain that he can't shop for himself.
Today he told me he found an apartment to rent and that, after thinking it over, realized his request would have put a huge burden on me.
I and my SparkPeople friends have been praying for a solution and if that was to care for this man then so be it, I'd do the best I could.
As with many things that are simply not aligned with the essence of the universe, having him as a roommate, at this time, was not the best thing for either of us.
And, as things often do, they worked themselves out. Good for both of us, no friendship ruined, no added stress for me, and privacy for both of us.
Thank you all who offered insights, prayers and perspectives on this problem when I first wrote about it. You helped immensely and I am grateful.