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#260: Beware of Negative Thinkers

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

It is easy to write about being positive and having a good attitude. But what about those people who do not recognize themselves as being negative thinkers and thus can not fathom what it means to think positively?

Here is how they think:

* "I can't do it." -- They are afraid of failing and can't picture themselves succeeding.

* "That's not my job." -- They don't take responsibility and show initiative.

* "We've never done it that way before." -- They are unwilling to try something new.

* "Why not leave things the way they are?" -- They're afraid to step out of their comfort zone.

* "It's not my fault." -- They find it easy to blame others rather than admitting fault.

* "No one likes me." -- They think of themselves as unattractive and undesirable.

* "That will never work." -- They are used to mediocrity and status quo and are unwilling to explore better ways of doing things.

Negative thinkers spread rumors and gossip. They resent the successes of others and bask in other's failures. They are jealous, critical and insulting. They assume an "I don't care" attitude. They are reluctant to work hard because they believe someone else will take credit for their accomplishments. They show favoritism. They are braggarts.

Negative thinkers drain the energy from others. They are nearly always in a bad mood. They never seem enthusiastic about anything. They demean any suggestions from anyone else.

This could continue for some time but suffice it to say that negative thinkers are not fun to be around.

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    My pastor always says it's much easier to think negatively as it doesn't require any work!! In this negative world it's a constant battle to think positive and he's right it does take work to stay on the positive side of life! Thank you for the reminder! The Bible says, we are to be in the world not of the world!
    4000 days ago
    negative talk can wear you down fast!
    4000 days ago
    Hey Lou! Great, great, great post! Have an awesome day! Pam
    4001 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    You are so right, we need to see things in a Positive light, even things that are not as uplifting as we would like, but know that they all work together for our good, if we belong to HIM! emoticon
    4001 days ago
    I agree it is best to stay away from negative thinkers to avoid being sucked into their trap. One place I used to work was that way. There was a group that I avoided as much as possible because I was so tired of all their constatn complaining.

    I have struggled with low self esteem a lot in my life, and have really worked to change what I say about myself. I was really grieved when we spent time this weekend with my brother and sister-in-law and their two girls. There oldest is only 10 yet she is already a little cloud of gloom. My husband and I are very concerned about her. She is extremely intelligent but doesn't seem to have any friends, or interests that others her age has. It is such a shame to see what negative thinking has already done to her. My hubby and I are going to see if her folks will let her come visit this summer. She can be difficult to get along with, but we want to try and do so, and help her out if we can.
    4002 days ago
    I know some of them types of people all to well.... sometimes I know if I am having a negative moment or two and I regret letting my inner demons come out because not only does it bring me down, but usually those around me. I don't want to affect people's lives in that way, but it comes from growing up in a family that has a lot of these negative people and it makes it hard to find the positivity in life when most of the time they made me feel miserable and worthless. It's not until the last couple of years that I started differentiating the attitudes of others and who I want to surround myself with and how I want to impact others.

    Thanks Lou for speaking out about both the positive and the negative.

    4002 days ago
    For those of you who are interested there is a therapy program called COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY, this helped me tremendously when I went through a very negative patch in my life 10 years ago. A lot of negative thinkers have ANXIETY DISORDER, and or CLINICAL DEPRESSION.

    Worth pondering, and hope it helps those of you who are negative thinkers.

    4002 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4114015
    You are sooooo right! I definitely steer clear of them! Thanks...good word.
    4002 days ago
    Naysayers exhaust me. You are so right.
    4002 days ago
  • LINDA25427
    I am created in my makers image I hope I can make him proud of me and I am the kind of person he would want me to be .
    Hope you have a great week . God bless. emoticon emoticon
    4002 days ago
    Lou, I WAS the definition of a negative thinker before I got healthier! Now, I'd say I'm doing a whole lot better! Thanks for the blog so that I could stop and reflect today!
    4002 days ago
    ya, I agree they are like quick sand...sometimes it is very hard when you work around a few of them...Just try to smile and pray to the heavens that you are STRONG enough not to get sucked in... :) emoticon
    4002 days ago
    Negative thinkers are like quick sand! Yes , I agree.
    4002 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2702433
    owwww! Sometimes I guess I am a negative thinker..... emoticon
    4002 days ago
    I do have to say that sometimes some of this is me, but actively combatting it when I notice. (My Amazon order is expected to arrive within the next two days :))
    4002 days ago
    Yes, I agree. They can pull you down so quick, if you let them.
    4002 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2833646
    I agree. I just hope I'm not one of them! Think positive. Think positive. Think positive. . . .
    4002 days ago
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