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#267: Life Can Be Fair

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Most of us grow up believing the world and life will be fair, just and equitable. But we soon learn otherwise.

One reason that life is not fair is because it is comprised of self-centered people who do not much care for the plight of others.

They do not reach out to others in friendship but look at people cynically as if other people are somehow out to "get" them. It doesn't matter if it is on the road, at work or at a restaurant, the thinking seems to be, "They want to keep me from getting where I want to go, to keep me from that promotion I deserve or the well-located table in the restaurant. They want to see me mess up so they can gloat over my misfortune."

But this is not so. Not everyone is out to get someone else. Many people truly do care about others. The problem is that these people often seem to be too few in number, dwarfed by the volume of rude, condescending, selfish people who populate our planet.

Some say our lives are like a poker hand -- it's the luck of the draw that determines our circumstances -- and that we must play the hand we have been dealt without dwelling on it later.

But, for many people, this is not enough. They want what they do not deserve and what they do not wish to work for. They want others to cater to their whims and desires. And, when someone else has more success, then jealousy and envy rear their ugly heads.

Is it so difficult for us to simply be friendly, supportive, encouraging non-judgmental people? Is it so difficult for us to be genuinely happy to allow others their own measure of success?

If more people put others first, I believe many of our interpersonal problems would cease to exist.

There is so very much to be happy for and appreciative of in this marvelous universe of ours for us to waste time with petty grievances.

Life is too short to live it mired in envy and hatred and jealousy.

And, yes, life is not fair. But it can be more so if each of us try our best to make it a better place for us and for those we encounter during our years on earth.

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    So true, so true!!!!

    3996 days ago
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    Thank you for the reminder. I am one of those people who has to fight the urge to look at people cynically. Not that they are out to one up me, but more out to hurt me some how, some way. So, thanks for the reminder that I still need to change!
    3996 days ago
    Great minds think alike they say. I am amazed at how close our thoughts were today. Good blog.
    3996 days ago
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    Lou, thank you, I think we all need to be reminded frequently to watch how we treat others. One thing I always try to remember is Who I am representing every minute of every day. Especially in today's world it is important to remember that we are His Light shining through to the world. "Envy and hatred and jealousy" are all the enemy's tools and it is amazing how "jealous" so many are today.
    Again, thanks,
    3996 days ago
    Another great blog, Lou! Life is not always fair; but God is good ALL the time! And I am so glad that He takes care of us!

    I pray to be more giving and thoughtful to those around me every day. I am so blessed by the people God has brought in to my life.
    3996 days ago
    If life gives you a lemon, make lemonade" Unknown

    If life gives your friend a lemon - help them make lemonade however you can help.

    Life is unfair sometimes but remember that it is unfair to everyone at sometime. See the opportunities in problems not the problems in opportunities. Joy
    3996 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/23/2010 9:48:34 PM
    What an emoticon Blog! I've always believed that you should always have an positive outlook on life, because the negative can lead you in the wrong direction. Thats why I always try to make a bad situation into a good one no matter what the situation could be.

    Lou, as always, you have motivated and inspired me with your words of wisdom. Thank you emoticon
    3996 days ago
    I think one reason what you wrote appears to be true is because we tend to remember the people you described. There are a lot of people like that but there are also many people who are kind and considerate.

    Even on SP there are so many people who want to help others. I would hope we are like that in our daily lives also.

    Perhaps we just need to look for the good in others.

    God bless
    3996 days ago
  • WEEZIE1122
    Life is definitely too short to focus on the negative.

    3996 days ago
    Amen, brother! What a fantastic blog! Like I said, You have been blessed with such a gift! emoticon

    I hope that I will remember this each day as I interact with others!

    3996 days ago
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