#272: I'm the Patriarch of the Family
Sunday, March 28, 2010
To some people, a sense of family means little. To me, and others, a sense of family is of great significance and we do what we can to capture the spirits and memories of our relatives.
During a conversation with my adult nephew today it hit me -- I'm the patriarch of the family now. After Mom died and then her brother, my uncle Bud, a short time later, I became the oldest in the family.
Until now I have felt overwhelmed at all of the items that document our family's triumphs and evolution that are stored in the house. I have resented that my brother and sister have not helped as much as I believed they should in sorting and labeling these things.
I now recognize that it is more my responsibility than theirs to hold onto the things that bring the relatives to life and to preserve them for those who follow me.
I recognize, too, that I was allowing negative thinking to drive my feelings toward my siblings.
But, tonight my heart is lighter. My thinking is no longer dominated by negativity.
No longer do I resent having to assume this role. I fully understand this role is as much a part of life as are the objects that bring back so many fond memories of those who have passed on.
It is a challenge I accept with renewed vigor and with hope that my living relatives will one day see the light and come to appreciate that some "things" are important to keeping thoughts of the family alive.
It will be a shame if they fail to grasp the significance of our relatives' lives. We are all a part of the evolution of life and none of us want to be or should be forgotten.