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Thoughts about Quitting

Wednesday, April 07, 2010

I feel like a student when I watch the Biggest Loser- there is always a valuable lesson for me to take away if I pay attention, and last night was a perfectly timed lesson!

I am sure many people agree that getting to leave your everyday life on hold and going to a place like the Biggest Loser Ranch would seem like a dream come true. You could get up everyday and just work on reaching your goals- with all the right foods, all the right equipment at the ready, and with wonderful trainers to kick start you- and keep you- into motion. Blissful! No distractions or things to keep you from just working off the pounds. And, we have all been taught over and over again, that weight loss is a simple formula- calories in vs. calories out. Right?

Well last night's show was a real lesson that clearly showed just how difficult this journey can be- and how unpredictable- and how @*%$ %%$@# frustrating! Every contestant worked their butt off exercising all week. They did more in a week than I could do in a month. They had great trainers helping them do all the right things. I am sure there were no donuts or chocolate bunnies in the pantry for them to dive into an emotional binge. And I am sure they all had command of their calorie deficits.

Yet, when they went to weigh in, many of them were shocked, saddened and disappointed with their results. Even their trainers looked on with dismay on their faces- How could that be? They worked so hard! They did all the right things..The scale was NOT showing numbers anyone was expecting. How many times has that happened to many of us? We do it right, and the scale gets it wrong?

When faced with falling below the yellow line, though, you don't see contestants saying things like "Oh well, I'll never lose the weight- why try?" or "This doesn't work and I want to quit!" Instead, you see them crying and begging for their chance to stay at the ranch and get back to work in the morning. The contestant who goes home doesn't say "It's over"or "I can't do this" ....they go home, make necessary changes, and keep working! They don't quit!

And they end up winning- all of them. They face their disappointment at the scale, evaluate and then move confidently forward. They don't talk about quitting...and neither do I! And in the end, they transform their bodies and their lives- and so will I!

I will often complain that I am working so hard and trying so hard, yet that darn scale isn't budging. How true is that? So, I came up with a formula- very simple and unscientific- to figure it out. There are 30 days in April. There are two key components to weight loss- food intake and exercise. So, if I give myself 1 point per day for staying on my food plan, and one point per day for exercising, I could have a possible of 60 points at the end of the month. If I do one but not the other, I get one point for the day, etc. Since I love being a student, I will grade myself on a grade scale where 90% is an A, 80% is a B, 70% is a C, 60% is a D, and anything under that is a FAIL. So, in order to get an "A" grade, I can only lose 6 points- meaning that in a month, I can only go off my eating plan or my exercise plan 6 times. If I want a "B", I can only go my plan 12 times.

This would lead to a reality check- if I tend to slack on weekends, there are 8 possible weekend points, I am already into "B" range- not an "A" effort. Now I am not saying this is something to jump off a cliff about- NOT AT ALL! It is a way to check if I am being real with myself. Do I have a grip on my effort for the week, or the month? And like last night's show showed me, even if I had 100%, the scale might not give me an A+ like I might deserve- but that DOES NOT mean it is time to quit, or that I didn't do a lot of right things! This is just a tool for me to gauge how much effort I am putting in.

In order to be successful, we need to honestly evaluate how hard we are trying and then realize that even on the Biggest Loser, there are no perfect formulas for guaranteed results on the scale! The only guarantee is that if you give up, you lose! You can't win if you don't try!

I wrote this blog because I have run across many blogs in the past few weeks about people losing heart and thinking they should give up. And although my progress has been so small, the thought of quitting was never a thought. I want this too much. I care too much. Progress is not as fast as I would like, as easy as I would have it, or even as predictable...but it is what it is! The key component to deciding if you want to keep going on this journey is "Do you feel like you are worth it? Can you win?" I say "YES!" There are more wins than a pant size or a number on the scale- feeling better, developing strength, knowing you can set a goal ( walk 4 miles, etc) and making it. You need to see the glass as half full! The goal as yours for the taking!

It's Spring- a time of renewed energy, new life, and HOPE! This is the perfect time to get back in your wagon, strap yourself in, and earn an A for effort and see how many wins you can achieve on the journey!! Whatever you do, just don't quit!

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  • UNICORN212
    You get an A+ for writing that blog! You always do such a good job on your blogs. And you come up with some very good ideas, too!
    3976 days ago
  • WHITNEY0814
    The grading system sounds amazing. I might just have to steal that idea from you!!
    3976 days ago
    That was a wonderful blog. No matter how disappointed I'am in something I don't plan on giving this up. I agree if you keep on pushing forward your hard work is going to show in the end.
    3976 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6368620
    What a great blog, my friend. You said it...nothing left to add! I love your determination. I wish I could be more like that, and you inspire me to keep movin' on! What a fantastic attitude. And don't you worry about that stupid month of March...I hate March! Forget about it...April is soooo much better! And you will MAKE it better for yourself. Love that grading system, too....you will be rockin' this month, no doubt!
    3978 days ago
    I love your self-grading scale. I do things like that all the time, too. :)

    - Josie
    3979 days ago
    Ok, YOU just freaked me out with that title. I am like screaming "NO YOU CANNOT QUIT" as I run to click on the link and see what the heck is going on.

    Whew! Am I glad this was such a great blog and not about quitting either, well it is about NOT quitting, but I am seriously releaved. You have no idea my friend.

    I love your grading scale and as a teacher I give you an A+ for effort and coming up with a great and yet very easy plan. I will give you your other grade at the end of the month and then the your total GPA.

    As you know I am a teacher and so this just so rocks me where I live.

    WHEW again!

    Keep up the great work!
    3979 days ago
    You are worth it and you can do it,...Quitting is not an option!!
    3979 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3598327
    I care too much for myself to quit! This is what I needed to read today! Thank you! Awesome blog!!!
    3979 days ago
    You hit the nail on the head with the last emoticon... YOU ARE WORTH IT!!! I am with you. I've been down and discouraged on this journey down the scale.. but I have NEVER thought that I should just quit!!! NEVER! Let's DO IT my friend... Together we can do it... you are living up to your name: "ICANDOIT" and I believe you! Love, Dawn
    3979 days ago
    Fantastic blog, so proud of you for sharing. What great insights. I love the biggest loser too. I have watched every show at least twice if not more. I like what you are doing, what a great plan of attack. emoticon emoticon We will be cheering for that A. Hugs Sandra
    3979 days ago
    Thanks for sharing this. I love that show too.
    3979 days ago
  • DARA52
    Thanks for a great blog. Wouldn't that be horrible to do all that hard work and not have the scale move??? yikes!!
    3980 days ago
    Super blog!! Keep that can do spirit! Will love to hear how your month goes. There are times we all need to kick start our plans and it always helps to have the right attitude.
    3980 days ago
    Love your blog, I'm a big fan of the Biggest Loser, I ususally tape it though and watch it later so I can fast forward through the commercial breaks, I hate those cliff hanging moments when they cut away and everybodies mouth drops open and then it's another commercial! Love your attitude, you are a very positive inspiring force to be reckoned with. Keep It Up!!!! emoticon
    3980 days ago
  • no profile photo ANGELLUV1019
    How inspirational! I am worth it and I won't give up. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
    3980 days ago
  • LESLIES537
    As always, I love your blog! I'm glad you shared about the Biggest Loser contestents and how they were struggling with the scale reflecting their efforts too! That makes me feel so much better. Thanks for sharing! emoticon
    3980 days ago
  • no profile photo MY2GIRLS31
    Very well put! Thanks for the uplifting message today. I know I really needed it! emoticon
    3980 days ago
    This is great! I often feel like I am working hard, and I am only sort of working hard. The idea of two points a day is a good honesty check. I think I will try it. I bet I am a C student. But, that gives me room to improve! I do run three days a week! Yea me for that! And the days I over eat, it is rarely crazy preSP eating. So a little extra credit for that!


    3980 days ago
  • -TAMI-
    Wow you are on a positive roll this week. Your blogs have been uplifting and amazing!
    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us. emoticon
    3980 days ago
    Love this blog! I am going to grade myself too - but on a go forward basis or I might have lost too many points for the month already!
    3980 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3992584
    This blog is so true! I love biggest loser and was thinking the exact same thing last night! Maybe in the day to day life people find it to easy to quit but we're all in this to win it; not a game but our lives! Your blog hit the nail on the head and it was FANTASTIC! I love your method of grading yourself. I often find that it's easier for me to look at things this way as well. It keeps it into perspective especially when the scale isn't agreeing! Have a positive day!
    3980 days ago
  • KROLES55
    Great Blog!
    3980 days ago
    Great, great, great blog!!
    3980 days ago
    Yes you can Ang! NEVER GIVE UP!
    3980 days ago
    Great blog, love the attitude! It is a winner!
    3980 days ago
    Love the grading plan Ang, you will see a good result this month.
    3980 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1276095
    Love your grading idea! Thanks for the share.
    3980 days ago
    Great job!

    3980 days ago
    If I may be so bold- HELL YEAH!
    3980 days ago
    Wow. This is a fantastic blog. You are such a good writer! And, you are so right about everything! I was thinking the other day that thoughts like, "It's too hard," and wanting to give up is like saying, "Okay, I'm not worth it, and I'm willing to die for that belief." And that is CRAZY!!!! Thanks for putting everything into perspective for me. I appreciate you sharing the lessons you have learned. emoticon
    3980 days ago
    What an excellent idea! I would definitely respond to a grading system like that! I have to get As in school! Keep up the good work and the positive attitude!
    3980 days ago
  • no profile photo GRAMPIAN
    Thanks for this encouraging blog. I like your system! emoticon
    3980 days ago
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