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#301: Yesterday is Gone.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

I recall reading once that what seems a failure in our lives may not have been one at all but simply may have been the best we could have done under the circumstances.

Tears, self-regret, even self-loathing will never change our past decisions. There is no reason to dwell on what might have been or could have been or on what we should have done or said. Our judgment at the time was the decision we made because of the existing situation, using our overall knowledge of the event. Self-recriminations serve no worthwhile purpose.

Isn't it enough that we have today's challenges to deal with? Must we overload our emotions and our minds with the past?

When we make decisions we build our wealth of knowledge for the future, when similar circumstances may again face us, when we can call on our past experiences to shape our future reactions.

Over time, we can only hope and pray that we make the best judgment calls we can with facts at hand. We mustn't allow tears of sorrow to drown our ambitions but should always remember that whatever we have done was likely the best we could have done at the time and know that even if faced with identical circumstances in the future our decisions will be tempered by past knowledge and experience.

Let us live today, expect tomorrow, but never drown in yesterday.
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  • LESLIES537
    3733 days ago
    Awesome blog, Lou! Thank you!
    3957 days ago
    Mmmmmmm........Your speaking to me again Lou! I have been struggling with some decisions that my husband and I have made together as well as some he made on his own for months now! I only hope we can do it better in the future. You surely can't go back, but you can change what's ahead, the future! Thank you for lightening my heart! Wonderful blog, short, but sweet!!!
    3958 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5002230
    This is wonderful! The same goes for our family and friends!!
    3959 days ago
    I really like this, Lou. Thank you.
    3959 days ago
    Not everything that looks like failure is. Sometimes what we perceive to be negative is the very thing in life we needed to get where we wanted to go. We can't see tomorrow, but we know Who holds it in the palm of His hands. Even the negatives can become positive when put in His hands.
    3959 days ago
    emoticon I needed this- very well said. Hugs, Joy
    3959 days ago
    Beautiful thoughts Lou! emoticon
    3959 days ago
    All of these are excellent thoughts! Growing through Sparkpeople - very motivating!
    3959 days ago
  • DKWP614
    You are correct! Living in the moment is the best that we can hope to achieve. Being present in our lives regardless of the choices of our past, or what our future may show us, is the most productive use of our time and energy. Taking our teaching moments, remembering them, and moving forward in the now moment is the thing that will bring us continued success, health and happiness. Not always simple or easy to do, but always well worth the effort!!

    Thank you for stimulating my brain and reminding me of my path this morning.
    Diana Kathryn
    3959 days ago
    Funny, I just had that conversation yesterday.
    I don't tend to live in the past. Would have, should have, could have isn't really productive. And boy, looking back at all of my past mistakes I could easily drown in would haves, should haves and could haves...

    Am I better for it today? Who knows. Time will tell. We learn as we move along through good decisions and bad decisions.

    I'm sure most of us have enough on our plates just living today. (And then some...)

    Thanks for your blog, Lou. You always challenge me to look a little deeper :)
    3959 days ago
    very well put Lou!!!

    3959 days ago
  • no profile photo YW84FRIDAY
    So true! Maya Angelou put it this way, "I did what I knew and when I knew better, I did better." I hang on to that every day!!

    3959 days ago
    Well spoken sir. Nothing worthwhile is accomplished by dwelling on the perceived failures in ones life. The best we can hope to do is, as you have so eloquently written, learn from those experiences and move on to new and better things armed with the knowledge we have gained through these experiences.
    3960 days ago
    This is a thought provoking blog. I enjoyed reading it. Thank you for taking the time to write it.
    3960 days ago
    emoticon Good blog, Lou...when you know better, you do better. No sense in living in the past...yesterday's gone and we can only change ourselves as we move forward. I try to stay in the present...sometimes it's hard, but so worth it...
    3960 days ago

    I often find that it's not necessarily my actions of past decisions I have a hard time with, but whether or not the other people in the situation truly understood where I was coming from! If they truly understood my intentions! If they truly heard what I was trying to say! If, their interpretation of what I am today is judged by what I was 10 yrs ago, therefore saturated with judgement and opinions that are not related or valid!

    Honestly... I would have to say that is my biggest downfall! I tried to conquer it for lent! That of worrying about what other people think and believe me to be... and although I am better and stronger in this area... it is still the vain of my existence!
    3960 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/28/2010 8:47:23 PM
  • EKPETE01
    This is really really inspirational! thanks
    3960 days ago
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