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I am smart...

Sunday, May 09, 2010

OK....apparently my current status "Scolly is glad her kiddos have such a smart mom" has sparked some interest :) Yes, there's a story...

During a training for school a couple of years ago, I ran across a teacher who said she has her students say "I am smart" every day. I loved that idea!! As a teacher of kids who have special needs, I often hear about and have to report on their limitations, but I much prefer to focus on their abilities. I doubt any of my students have ever said "I am smart" before entering my classroom. So we say it together every day. For the kiddos who are non-verbal, we sign it.

Then, last year, I went to an intensive camp which focused on kiddos who have Reactive Attachment Disorder (see my blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/myp
ual.asp?blog_id=1895427). At that camp, they talked about empowering the parent to take control of severe behaviors. We (the staff) called the parents "Awesome Mom" or "Awesome Dad".

So....between the two experiences, I've really put a focus on empowering MYSELF and others - and starting with something as simple as having kids say how smart they are!

Last night, my 9yo son grabbed the DS before heading to bed...I just happened to catch it out of the corner of my eye...and called him on it. He said his little brother had told him to get it for him. LOVELY!!

So tonight, my 6yo son snuck the DS - again - under his jammies - on the way back to bed. Luckily my hubby spied this and told me. I let it go a few minutes, then announced to my son that if there were an object hidden somewhere in or around his bed, he needed to bring it to me immediately. I also informed him how sad it would make me to have to throw away a toy on Mother's Day. Amazed that I knew about his sneakiness, he brought me the DS and I put it up. He asked me how I knew - and I used my standard reply - Because I'm very very smart!!! And I am! :)

I'm smart enough to tell the kids when I don't know answers to their questions. I'm smart enough to let them know when I've made mistakes. I love to encourage them, to acknowledge their accomplishments, and to tell them every day the wonderful ways they made my day brighter.

I used to ask them all every night before going to bed what their favorite part of their day was - I've not done that for a few months - I really need to do that again. For them AND for me. What a great way to focus on the good stuff. See...I AM smart :)
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    I asked my kids after Christmas what their favorite part of the celebrations were and were very pleasantly surprised at their answers, it really is a nice thing to do ......you are SMART!
    3760 days ago
  • ***LISA***
    You are a smart and WONDERFUL woman and mother!
    3935 days ago
    Matt tries this all the time, His PSP has been taken away a number of times. He's lately tried to watch TV or a movie now when he's supposed to be sleeping. Of course it doesn't help when he has a 29" TV and DVD player in his room.

    I guess I'm hoping that being 16 on Friday, that he'll make good choices and not have to have things taken away.
    3947 days ago
    Ah, Scolly, you are such a fantastic mommy and teacher. Have I told you lately how much I respect, like, and admire you?
    3987 days ago
    My special needs kids are in the 5th grade - just the age where they are becoming SUPER sensitive to looking different from their peers and starting to balk against or question why they receive special help. I love the idea of having them say "I am smart" - although I think they might feel kind of silly about it!! Also.........what's a DS?
    3987 days ago
    Cute story Holly! Hope you had a great Mother's Day
    3991 days ago
    Very smart...and a good mom too!... also an awesomw teacher I bet,
    3991 days ago
    What an absolutely wonderful blog entry!! I love everything you post, but this was just particularly outstanding!! I just love it!! You are smart!! And I am smart enough to be friends with someone as smart as you! I love you!
    3992 days ago
  • LIZZYP609
    This is awesome! I have been known to say "Because Mom's know everything!" but of course they know don't!. When I don't know something I am sure to let them know too.
    I love the I am smart. I think I will start using it!
    3992 days ago
  • LISA01605
    What a great mom! Your kids are very lucky!
    3992 days ago
    Hi Holly,

    You are a BRILLIANT and multi-talented Mom, for sure! What great exercises. Thanks for sharing with us :)

    3992 days ago
    As a new mom, I am going to take some pointers from you. :) I hope you had a great Mother's Day!
    3992 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/10/2010 7:57:16 AM
    I'm glad YOU know that you are a smart Mom... because I could see it throughout your blogs for the past year or more! :)

    You are doing a great job with your kids and your school kids too! I might even be taking pointers from you :) Just incase I need the help! LOL
    3992 days ago
    Of course you are smart, Holly. I don't have dumb friends. ;-)

    I love the idea of asking the kids what their favourite part of the day was. It forces them to think positively, something teenagers often have problems doing. I'm going to steal that technique.

    By the way, my boys sneak their electronics into bed at night, too, so they are all required to leave their mp3 players, PSPs, etc. on the coffee table at night. I'm not sure what to do about Ladybug who likes to read past her bedtime; its difficult to punish a kid for reading.

    3992 days ago
    Yes you ARE smart, I think I would call it WISDOM!!!

    I used to ask :" What was your favourite part of the trip?" - because my kids used to watch DORA THE EXPLORER ....but we have not done that as much now that they are a little older ( and I am at work most days when they go to bed! )

    Thanks for this very inspiring SMART Blog!

    3992 days ago
    Yes indeed you are!!! That is a cute story and I love what you are doing with the kids, having them say they are smart. It is so important to give kids confidence in themselves!

    Happy Mother's day!!!
    3992 days ago
    You ARE smart! And I am smart to have you for a SparkFriend!
    Thanks for the encouragement to be more positive... I've been rather hard on myself today, and I needed the reminder! Thanks!

    Oh, and you're super-smart to call your kids on their sneakiness... that is one habit you don't want to start! But then, you knew that, cuz you are smart!
    3992 days ago
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