From Topsy-turvey to peace!
Monday, June 21, 2010
Writing this blog has been a real struggle and the words just don’t want to come out. A few of my close friends are award that I have only one sibling, who is mentally and physically handicapped, her name is Janette ( Sis). Sis is 53 years old and has always lived at home with my parents, who have cared for her since her birth. She has never walked, and has the mental capacity of about a 5 year old. She could not even sit up on her own until she had several visits to a chiropractor, and was finally able to sit up. She was born in the 50’s at a time when Doctors did not know what was even wrong with her, I remember my parents taking her to doctor after doctor, faith healer, after faith healer, then finally when she was about 7 or 8 years old my parents were told that she had cerebral palsy, and probably would never walk.
My parents dedicated their complete lives to her care, even with their own ageing and deteriorating health. In October of 2009 my Dad passed away which left the care of Janette to only my Mom. My Mom can barely manage to take care of herself; she has hip, knee and ankle problems and also diabetes. Over the years they had spoken of placing Janette in a home once one or the other of them passed on. My Mom was always hesitant about this placement with ramblings in her own head of all of the ‘what if’s’, that could happen to my sister. Last month Mom finally had to come to terms with the fact that she just could no longer care for Sis, and started to look for a placement for her. The really sad part is Mom cannot even really take care of herself, has to have a relative take her to doctor appointments and has her groceries delivered, so it really came down to the last straw for her to admit defeat.
Sis went into a home about two weeks ago now, and her whole world would be topsy-turvy and change and she would not be able to handle all of the change (of course that was in Mom’s own mind.) Everyone that our family knows was praying for a good result to the situation, and God is so good, God already had a plan.
Sis was placed in a room with another gal about her age that cannot walk as well. Within just days they were best of friends, laughing and giggling all of the time like two little school girls at a sleep over. They have so much in common and an instant bond was formed. Her roommate had never taken her meals in the cafeteria with the others, but, ate in her own room, well at least that was the way it was until Sis arrived. They both now go the cafeteria together to eat. They play bingo daily, and are awarded prizes for their efforts. Sis has companionship with someone other than a care giver.
As for Mom, she is still trudging along attempting to take care of herself, and she says having the time of her life with no boss after 53 years. She is playing her piano, reading, napping, or going to visit Sis when she can. We live about 1200 miles from both of them and had asked if they wanted to come live at least in the same town as us… but, no, Mom wants to stay in her home town and would not even consider moving.
Looking back over the years, God has always had a plan, has always been in control of Janette’s life. So when it looks like things are just headed the wrong way and getting totally out of control, place your trust and faith in God, and in “His Time’ God will reveal his plan, with a better outcome than you can envision in your own mind.