#377: Think Right Toward Others
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Do you want to be liked by other people?
Don't we all?
But how do we become likeable? There are many ways. Perhaps the most important is to remember the Golden Rule and treat others as you want to be treated.
* Condemn others or spread gossip or rumors or treat them in a demeaning way.
* Come across as arrogant or as a know-it-all.
* Put down or embarrass anyone in front of others.
* Act as if you are better than others. There is always someone who can do what you can't.
* Treat people with kindness and respect.
* Lift them up with your words and your actions.
* Realize that they are likely feeling insecure and lonely. Make them feel welcome and comfortable, as if they were invited guests in your home.
* Become interested in their lives and their interests. Ask about their family and their background. We all have experienced amazing things, lived in different places and have varied skills and abilities and hopes and dreams.
* Let others talk.
Getting to know others makes them become real and not simply a cashier or clerk or secretary or co-worker.
In the book, "The Magic of Thinking Big" author David Schwartz tells of former United States President Lyndon Johnson who, before he became president, created a 10-point checklist for getting along with others. His list:
1. Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing.
2. Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual.
3. Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do not ruffle you.
4. Don't be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.
5. Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.
6. Study to get the "scratchy" elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
7. Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
8. Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
9. Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone's achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
10. Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.
It has often been said that to most people they are the most important person in their lives. People love to talk about themselves and develop favorable feelings toward those who ask about their lives.
Make the effort to think right toward others and you will see astonishing results.
Isn't it worth a try?