Weight Loss/Gain and Family Harmony
Monday, July 26, 2010
Here is a new problem, at least for me, but maybe some of you have seen this before and will have some advice. I have been counting calories and doing an hour of exercise most days of the week since December 1st and have lost 30 some pounds. During this period, my husband who weighed maybe 130 and is 5 foot 9 has also lost some weight. Now, if you look at his weight, and height, you might realize that he can't afford to loose much weight. He is very close to 120 now. He is right near an 18 bmi and this has begun to worry him. He went to the doctor the other day and they ran blood tests and a chest xray and see nothing wrong. They have referred him to a dietitian who will call him soon to make an appointment. Now for the problem.
How does one member of the family try and gain weight, while the other family member tries to loose weight without any short order cooks around? IE we cook low sodium and low fat, as both of our stomachs can not take the fat. I am eating a salad at least a few times a week before dinner, not every night. I have suggested he start putting the bacon bits, cheese, etc. on his salad and we could make his smaller, so I don't feel singled out by eating a salad, but he doesn't eat much of one so it doesn't cut his appetite too much. I also suggested nuts as a snack. High cal, but healthy. Any other ideas that can help him be healthy, and gain weight a little that will keep family harmony? We all have issues loosing weight and food and our weight does become somewhat of a hot topic, and I don't want to feel bad when he eats a bag of combos or something and I can not. Ideas?
Oh, and when is being underweight, but not seeing anything in the blood work a problem? IE if he tested fine, how much does he need to work on turning this around? How light is too light? And, no he does not have any eating disorders. The men of his family have always been very light and dense. They don't float well, because they just don't have enough fat. His body fat percentage is 10%, I think. He is a computer geek who used to skip meals in college, as he just got too preoccupied. Now he eats three meals, but if he eats a big lunch, he doesn't eat much dinner and he rarely snacks, but if he does, he is not hungry at dinner.
My irritation was that I decreased what I ate, but then so did he for no real reason. So I still feel like I eat a fair amount, even though I know I don't now. Ideas?