Monday, August 02, 2010
Recently, I had a friend of mine go through a difficult break-up. He is 40 and sat in my office, telling me he thinks he is having an epiphany about where his life should be. He said he has made some bad choices (referring to women) and said this to me, "Sometimes a red flag is a freakin' red flag. You can't make excuses for it, you can't try to justify it. It's a freakin' red flag."
That rang in my ears like I was hearing myself say it (only in a much deeper voice). Throughout my life I have tried to justify and make excuses for those little red flags, hoping they would go away. I think I too, am coming to the realization that there are red flags out there in certain aspects of my life that I simply cannot ignore anymore. I need to either get to the root of the red flag or simply raise my white flag - not to admit defeat, but to call a truce, walk away, move on in a more positive direction. Not because I am angry, but because I have to live my life for ME, what is best for ME.
So, thank you, my dear friend, for turning the light bulb on in my head as well. It is definately time for a re-evaluation.