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It's ok not to be perfect!!!

Monday, September 20, 2010

I have to tell myself this, if I am ever going to succeed and reach my goals. I have always been a "diet" perfectionist! This is a very bad thing to be!I am really trying to make this my life, not a "diet", and make it so the struggles to get and stay healthy are done the right way! I am the most committed, a fast loser, an all or nothing type! So for about the last month, I have really been having some major struggles. I just can't seem to get it together. I just can't seem to commit?!?!?!? I think about it all day, everyday. That does not mean that I am doing what I should be doing. I plan every bite, I plan everything I can eat, and everything I can't eat! And by 2:00 everyday, I am on a new binge! This has to stop! I am making myself CRAZY!!! I am disappointed in myself everyday! So Saturday rolled around, and I decided instead of making such a strict schedule for myself, I would just try and make healthy decisions through out the day. I did not deprive myself, I even let myself have 3 oreos, with out eating half the bag! When I was hungry I ate. I did try and make healthy choices, opted for a veggies burger instead of beef, had grapes when I was hungry before dinner, instead of a bag of chips! All and all I felt great and was not kicking my own butt for not sticking to my plan for the day. Saturday night, I logged on and added my meals for the day, and they were in range! I am really thinking about trying some thing new. Just starting my day with a healthy meal and then carrying that with me through out the day. I will start adding my foods at the end of the day to make sure that I am still on track. I can no longer deal with the daily failure and the binges for 1 little mistake. I know this will help me. I know that my afternoon workouts will also increase again, because I haven't beat myself up all day. I believe these changes will help me to get on track in a healthy way.

Thank you all for listening, for all the support and for any suggestions that you have that may help!

Owe while I am being honest, I have also gained 3 pounds in the last week! I know you are all so kind, but it's not water weight, it is chocolate and chips weight! But this to shall be a thing of the past soon!
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    I like your plan. Just have to keep fine-tuning what is working. You are doing GREAT!!!
    3913 days ago
    I totally agree with everything that you have had to say, it is a lifechange not just another diet. You have found out where you went wrong with your weight gain and soon like you said it will come a thing of the past. You mind is set and thats half of the battle!
    3914 days ago
    shoot for progression... not perfection
    3915 days ago
    3915 days ago
    You are right on when you say that we have to make a life change not go on a diet. I have to keep telling myself this everyday.
    3916 days ago
    Hey - you are back on your way. you can do it!
    3916 days ago
    Wooo Hooo :) I AM WITH YOU! I was feeling really discourage about the fact that I wasn't keeping to my sept goals perfectly. You are right - it's impossible to keep up perfection. Some days will be perfect and some will not be perfect. What matters is that the less then perfect days are just that and not total pit falls which can happen easily when we put too much pressure on ourselves. I think you have inspired me to get on the scale... something I've been avoiding. It is what it is! And we will take care of it ;) Keep up the great attitude!
    3916 days ago
    I think that's a wonderful plan. Don't stress yourself out! Making healthy choices throughout the day is definitely the way to go!!
    3917 days ago
    I enter mine as I eat for the day and I usually have a good idea now what the calories are in something when I making choices. Good for you for not beating yourself up anymore!
    3917 days ago
    I usually enter all my calories at the end of the day. Most days I'm in range, even without strict planning before hand. If I am over, it is usually not a surprise. But, it helps to not feel like I am on a "diet" if I can just make choices throughout the day. The less control I am going to have (like if I am eating out, or going to an event), the more I plan in advance.

    Good luck with your new way of eating - I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at how well you do!
    3917 days ago
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    I agree 100%! You can do it!
    3917 days ago
    Those dang chocolate chips! I know the feeling....you've got the right attitude!!!!
    3917 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6096849
    I always add my food at the end of the day. I usually take pictures with my phone to keep myself accountable. I'm not too hard on myself when I go out of my ranges. I know how much damage I've done. You gotta own it, dust yourself off and get back in the saddle. This journey isn't easy, and the weight won't come off as easily as it came on. Hey, Rome wasn't built in a day. Keep on keeping on. We are all rooting for you!
    3917 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3011801
    I can never telll myself i cant have something otherwise i binge on everything.I am allowed anything i want but in small amounts.You are doing the correct thing.Way to go.This is a lifestyle change not a diet.You can do it.Lisa
    3917 days ago
  • BOVEY63
    I think that most of here totally understand what you have been experiencing - this journey certainly has its ups, downs and bumps in the road. Just remember that you are not in this alone.

    You did so good by eating only 3 oreos and not the whole box - depriving yourself can too often backfire; and opting for grapes over chips shows how far you have come.

    Don't beat yourself up over the 3 pounds. Let it go and move forward.
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    3917 days ago
  • LJRW170
    I've been struggling with the same problem for the last month. If you can put the intuitive eating (eating when you're hungry, stopping when you're full) in place, you'll be doing great! Don't give up!

    3917 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I relate to you completely because this is a lesson that I am also in the process of learning and thank you so much for sharing, because it does work the way you just said, stay strong and learn to have new perspectives on eating in order to make it a life style instead of diet.
    3917 days ago
    I also have struggles with all or nothing. If I make one little slip up I feel like just throwing in the towel. I did really well starting last week resisting a whole sleeve of cooking and just eating 2. And resisting pizza, which is my favorite. I know we can do it. Thanks to all who use sparkpeople. It really helps to know there are other people out there who feel like I do.
    3917 days ago
  • no profile photo ZOOLOVER
    Try changing the what you can and can't eat to there are no forbidden foods, just everything in moderation. If I find that I really want a piece of cake, I will go to the store and purchase a piece of cake. I will not buy a hole cake and bring it home, that's to much temptation.

    Good job on eating grapes and 3 oreos instead of the whole bag. That is a great baby steps that you are taking toward a more healthy lifestyle, because that's what you're doing. You are changing your lifestyle, not dieting. When you diet, you can't wait for it to be over, so you can start eating like you used to and then you gain back everything you lost and then some. Changing lifestyles takes a lot of baby steps, get one thing down at a time. You will succeed because you want it, I can read it in your blog. emoticon
    3917 days ago
    Its a funny thing to find that balance that makes what your doing a lifestyle rather than a diet if that makes any sense. I find I attempt to make healthier eating decisions most of the time, and have noticed that overall I have maintained. I allow small splurges here and there but overall feel really crappy if I resort to old eating habits (fried food, stuff with gulten etc). I would have to say I went at this 'all or nothing' when I first started but now I just know all the changes I make - I can see doing for the rest of my life. not just for a few weeks. Have faith that what you are doing is helping you gain a healthier lifestyle! You will find what works for you!
    3917 days ago
    I am the same way the "all or nothing girl". So I know my limitations and try hard to work around them. I feel like a total failure when I don't eat perfectly, work out, and keep seeing the scale move. Let's vow to keep a positive attitude and cut ourselves a little slack for the occasional misstep. We are allowed to stumble and even gain a little back as long as we keep moving in the right direction.
    3917 days ago
    I can totally relate to the all or nothing mentality...USED to in the PAST if I was not doing it 100 percent then I quit!

    CRAZY thinking... you and me both have a handle on that now...

    Quitting is NOT an option!
    YOU will find the little tweeks that work for you! KEEP plugging along and those 3 lbs will disappear quick!
    3917 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5959732
    I am also a perfectionist. That mentality needs to be broken. It can only work for so long. You are on the right track in your thinking and I know you will find your footing again. emoticon
    3917 days ago
    I can't think with a "diet" mentality, I end up feeling deprived if I do and then I blow it.

    I just make healthy choices when I eat. Instead of chips I reach for a piece of fruit or a small handful of plain unsalted almonds. Small healthy choices made such a difference for me.
    3917 days ago
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