Wednesday, October 06, 2010
Well, my niece is pregnant. Her mom and dad (my brother and his wife) are taking it pretty hard. They have 2 sons and 1 daughter. Their daughter is 18 (19 in Dec). Of course with her being the only daughter, she can do no wrong. Well, she ends up pregnant. My brother and his wife, just can't handle it.
My daughter was 16 when she had her son. It was REALLY hard to deal with. One, because she was 16 and two, because at the time, I didn't know she even had a boyfriend, and she ends up pregnant? oh man... I had a really rough time, but I got through it. That was 3 years ago. My brother and his wife are reacting the same way as if their daughter was 16. So, I talked to them and told them what stages they will go through. Me, on the other hand, didn't have anyone to turn to. I didn't have anyone that has went through it. They did have someone to talk to about it. I am so glad I am able to help them through it.
My daughter is number 6 of the grandchildren, but number one of the granddaughters. My brother's daughter is number 7 of grandchildren and number 2 of granddaughters. My daughter was the first one in the family, (that is a family of 41 just from mom and dad on down) that had a baby under age, and out of wedlock. So, it was hard for all of us to cope with. Now his daughter is going through the same thing. Well, about the wedlock thing. I think they are going to get married before the baby is born. My daughter didn't get married. I wouldn't let her at age 16. Anyway, it's only been a week since we've known about my niece. My brother and his wife now are starting to get out of the anger stage. In their case, it was alot sooner than I did. I am so proud of them for trying to accept it. I think they realize now, that she is an adult now. I talked to my sister in law, and she is having a hard time in letting her daughter go. I told her....wait until this grandbaby gets here and you will be so overjoyed. It will be alot easier in letting her go.
Just keep them in your thoughts and prayers. Thanks everyone