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Update on my 17 year old.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

First of all, I want to thank everyone that posted on my blog titled "Where am I going wrong".

Tuesday, the 18th, I picked my daughter up at school, and got a pregnancy test. It is positive. No, I'm not happy about it right now.

About my husband. He handled it ALOT better than I did, even though he had no clue they were even doing anything. He had questions for her, such as...Do you not know what causes this?, Does he not know what causes this? Now he has 2 babies, that will be 1 year and 1 month apart by 2 different women. Is he going to be there for you next year? Will he have another one by another woman by then? etc. He is not turning his back on her, and I didn't have to force him into it either. So I am so thankful for that!

We are suppose to talk to the guy tonight. If he don't show up, there are going to be some problems. I made a list on what I want to talk to him about. My husband says he don't have anything to say to the boy.

A friend of mine said something to me that made me feel alot better about it. I'm still not happy about it, but I do feel better than I did before. She said....."You can think of it like this. You love your daughter and have shown her love throughout her life. She will pass the same kind of love down to her baby. So her baby will have the same kind of love and support as she did." I just never thought of it that way.

We have a tough road ahead of us, but we will get through it, as we did with our oldest daughter.

Thank you all for listening.

May God bless you!!

Jayme
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  • PHEBESS
    My niece was pregnant at 19, never married the guy (he ended up in jail), she moved on, stepped up to the situation, found a job, settled down, and is a great mom. She's now married to a wonderful guy who also was a single parent.

    So - it will force her to grow up more quickly - hope she takes responsibility and does what she needs to do to take care of this new little one.

    Good luck to all of you!
    3571 days ago
  • ZOIEY24
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    I am so sorry that your daughter will have to grow up so quickly. You are a fantastic mother for being so supportive of her. Many people do not have that tight-knit relationship. To be honest, if I had gotten pregnant at a young age I probably would have moved out of state with friends rather than face the music with my parents.

    I hope and pray that the father does continue to be involved and support both your daughter and the baby.

    I also hope that she is able to continue with school since in the long run that will allow her to more easily provide for her child. Maybe she could get some credits this summer at a local state or community college before the baby is born (I'm guessing that would be in the early autumn). Who knows, maybe that would inspire her older sister to do the same?

    In the meantime, I wish you all of the strength and love in the world. Your daughters have made their own decisions, but you are a wonderful woman for standing by them!
    3571 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/21/2011 1:49:09 AM
  • BOOGERBUTT
    I dont know you from Eve, but I want to hug you to bits! And your daughter too. I was also a teen mom at 17. It surely is a slap in the face of life! Hello world....here I am and its no longer about ME and my 17 yr old ways anymore, Im a mommy! The best thing that ever happend, for me, was that my mom and dad loved me NO MATTER WHAT! Babby daddy DIDNT stay, as we all knew he wouldnt, but mom and dad NEVER failed me! My friends did...and more people than I care to remember left me hanging. I realised early in life that my parents were TRULY my best friends and I could rely on them for anything, no matter what. It sounds like your daughter has the same wonderful type parents that I had. I hope she doesnt take it for granted like so many do. Best wishes to you all.

    3571 days ago
  • SMALLONEDAY
    well am glad you are meeting with the boy tonight pray that goes well and take this one day at a time thats all you can do right know .
    3571 days ago
  • SBLACKWELL93
    I was hoping for you all it was just a mess up in her cycle. But we all are put through tests, this is hers. She will have to hold to her values and the life she has set for herself. Best you can do is be there and support her the best you can. I am really glad that your husband is taking it a little better for yours and your daughters sake.

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    3571 days ago
  • BARBIE042
    emoticon I am sorry this had to happen to her / you right now . But you must think of the little "Angel" she is carrying a blessing. Yes it is hard to comprehend right now as to what plans she was making for herself etc. with schooling and all. But now she has to step up and take responsibility , not just for her but for the baby she is carrying. Things will workout for the best you will see , God will help you all though this.

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    3572 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/20/2011 12:13:29 PM
  • TWOTIMESS
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    It's going to be tough, especially for your daughter - All her future plans derailed / delayed. Let's pray she holds on to the values you instilled in her.
    3572 days ago
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