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Saboteur?

Saturday, February 05, 2011

I recently an acquaintence moved to my city, and well since she doesn`t know anyone she`s kinda been...clingy.

Which is well fair enough, I`m not really the most social of animals but I`m trying to be nice. And I`m fine to socialise, as long as the focus isn`t around alcohole.

Like today she invited me around for tequilla, and I politely explained I`d rather eat cals than drink them chasing a dissapointing buzz. But she`s still twisting my arm and I`m just wondering...a bit of insequirty going on?

Like in the past she`s told me I`m not fat really, and say something like no I`m not but I have various reasons for doing this.

Then a bit later she`s like, I don`t think I`M fat...I`m like, of course you`re not...like uhh I feel so awkward commenting on someones shape cos who am I to judge something like that!

But I`m just wondering...is maybe she feeling a bit insecure? :/
Like I`ve got my mini goal and my 10k race coming up so I`ve been trying super hard so i`m all yeaaaah I done a 6.4k run!! And maybe she has her own insecurities so hence I get the `you don`t need to loose weight` and `come over and get drunk` thing...*sigh*

I think I`m gonna have to be a little clearer that I don`t really want to hang out when the focus is alcohole, and suggest alternatives like a walk or even just watching a movie, just something where I don`t need to drink and undo all my good work

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  • no profile photo CD711123
    Give and take.

    If she wants to do tequila shots, tell her she has to run with you.
    3542 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3143770
    It almost seems like she is jealous...maybe she wants to be more like you, and have that ambition. Just clearly let her know that you aren't going to put yourself in situations that could cause you to be unhealthy, and let her know that she ever wants to take a walk or do something that promotes healthy living, you'd be happy to join her.
    3544 days ago
  • DADDYTREVOR
    People aren't always good for each other, are we? Yet we need each other sometimes to grow and get/give support. Sounds to me like you have a chance here to lead by example. Both of you will benefit if you can steer her to more positive things to do than booze it up. Bring her up and don't let her pull you down.
    3544 days ago
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