Today I had the pleasure of meeting and having lunch with several members of Team Orlando -- CWYNN01, SCOUTMOMMY2025 and VALLEYGIRL18002.
Our conversation covered many topics but I thought of one in particular on my drive home.
That was that we are not in competition with anyone but ourselves. Oh, we may enter challenges but the bottom line is that we really should not compare ourselves with anyone else.
The drive home was about 15 miles down an Interstate. As I traveled along, I enjoyed the journey -- bright sun shining
, cool breeze coming in the open window, music playing in the background on the radio
much as I am enjoying my weight loss journey. Many other drivers passed me but this wasn't a NASCAR race so their pace had no affect on me. Just like with our weight loss journeys. We're all advancing at different speeds. How fast one member loses weight does not affect our progress, does it?
And, just as with the drivers who were all heading to different destinations, so do we as people working to lose weight. Some people's destination is 20 pounds away, some 200 pounds. I got home in 20 minutes but other drivers, having further to travel, are likely to still be on the road. They are not disappointed because I got to the end of my drive before they did. My actions did not have any affect on them.
Also, I saw a variety of vehicles -- Fords, Chevrolets, Buicks, Cadillacs, SUVs, trucks
, RVs, some white, some brown, others red, black or yellow. The method used to get to our destinations may have varied, but all were effective, similar to our weight loss programs. Some people use the services of Weight Watchers, others a weight loss clinic, some work out in a gym, others have no gym access, some can run for miles, others can barely walk, some exercise to videos, others don't.
Everyone one of us needs to find what works for us. For example, I admit I am not a truck guy. I feel more comfortable driving a car. That doesn't mean that there is something wrong with or ineffective with those who prefer to drive a truck. We simply have different preferences. What works for one does not necessarily work for someone else.
I used to run
even though I never truly enjoyed it. I got bored and wondered what I was doing, running for no reason like trying to catch a football
or a bus I was late for. Others, though, derive deep joy from running and sometimes consider a seven mile jog a warm up. Not me. Does this mean one of us is more dedicated than the other? Not at all. We find what works for us and if we don't enjoy an exercise we find a substitute like a treadmill
No, we should not compare ourselves to others or our progress or lack thereof to that of others. We are all made differently and respond to different methods. Oh, I'd love to drive a Ferrari
, but know that will probably never happen so I don't let it concern me. I enjoy my car and like driving it. I also would love to have the build of a bodybuilder
, but that, too, is likely not going to happen because I do not wish to spend hours and hours lifting weights although I do like strength training. The workouts I can do and that I enjoy doing are challenging and effective and have helped me lose 41 pounds so far. Different strokes for different folks as the saying goes.
So the next time you feel yourself lamenting not losing as much weight as someone else, remember, their success does not affect your life in the least. We should compete against ourselves and keep in mind that everyone's weight loss destination is different and the time it takes to reach those destinations, like those of us on the road today, will differ.
Stay focused, determined and positive and work to become the best "you" you can be. That will be rewarding in itself. Wishing you the best of success.