Friends, Family, and pressure
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
For me, weekends are one of the hardest times to stick with my eating and exercise habits. What makes it harder? My friends and family. My two best friends are both overweight, one over 300, the other about 280. And neither is ready to, not wants to lose the weight. As a result, they don’t really care about what, or how much they eat, and don’t understand why I don’t eat the same way that I used to. My one girlfriend at one point told me that she didn’t want me to keep dropping weight because then she would be the “fat friend” and she enjoyed being about the same weight as I was. We will get together to game, and hang out, and she has chips, and candy, and cupcakes, and all sorts of things that I try not to ingest too much of. And even though I love her dearly but I honestly feel as if she is trying to sabotage me continued weight loss, and isn’t even always aware of it. My guy friend (Over 300), well, it’s gotten to the point that I can’t even eat with him anymore because it turns my stomach. For me, part of my success has come from educating myself about what exactly I’m eating, be it eating out, drinks, the grocery store, or eating at home. I admit, doing this I’ve picked up some odd eating habits (I don’t eat mayo anymore, or Ranch anything, pop tarts, and I can’t eat at some restaurants anymore). The last time I went to visit, he took me to Five Guys. And the burgers are good, but one of their regular burgers is about 800 calories, and a regular fry, well, a serving is HALF of it. I got a single burger, he got a regular burger, loaded, a large fry, a hot dog with everything, and a large regular coke. I had problems sitting through the meal. And I feel bad for feeling this way, I do, but for me, I just can’t live like that anymore, but they don’t understand why I’ve changed. Needless to say, things can get a little strained when everyone is together
As for family, they’re better. My mother has done weight watchers in the past, and lost about 20 pounds, but she has problems sticking to it. A huge problem is she is old school style meals. You have your main course, 2 sides, a salad, and rolls. She has gotten so much better, and admits I’m teaching her a new way to cook, eat, and live, but sometimes she falls back on old habits. I can live with/ work with that. My sister is only about 25 pounds less than I am right now, and has almost hit her wall but isn’t ready to committee just yet. It’s easier with them, but not always since both my mother and sister have a sweet tooth, and are not actively watching. They, however, are willing to listen and learn when I talk to them, and ask questions.
And I don’t mind answering questions. I’m glad to help, encourage, and spread the information. However, the pressure builds when, due to my success, people start telling me I’m their role model, or that I’ve encouraged them to start down the path to a healthier life. My sister recently told me that she “brags” to her co-works about me, and that their “biggest-loser” group wants me to come in and talk to them. I won’t lie, I freaked, because sharing how much I’ve lost, and what I used to weigh, well, it doesn’t come easily. Plus, I feel pressure that so many people are looking to me. I had been at the same weight for about 6 months. I wasn’t watching, I was barely working out….in other words, I had lost a bunch, but I wasn’t worth looking to for inspiration at that point in time. I know it shouldn’t put pressure on me, and that I should be happy that people want to change because they’ve witnessed the changes with me. So between family friends, and the pressure from everyone, it’s a little overwhelming. So for now, I’ll keep my recent weight loss to myself, and share it with my fellow sparks