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Learning to FEEL sexy

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

You know it's strange. You work your butt off (literally) and then when you actually get to a point that your body is looking good, you don't know how to feel it.

My husband and I got in an argument Sunday bc I wouldn't wear these dresses he wants me to wear. LOL. Sounds funny right? Well, to be honest, I just didn't think I should wear them. I didn't feel like I should go in public wearing a dress that shows my legs and arms. I just didn't feel "sexy" in them. Not that they are sexy dresses, but they are sun dresses and kind of short, so you see part of my thigh (which has always been my trouble zone). He also got upset with me because while it was 80 degrees outside, I opted out of shorts and wore jeans. I own 1 pair of jean shorts and some other khaki shorts and plaid shorts from YEARS ago...like 2004, my freshman year of college. He thinks I should show off all my progress, and I'm thinking...who you kidding, I'm not that girl that can just wear shorts.

Anyway, he says I am that girl....so I have to learn to be that girl now. I just never really thought I could be there again. But I am. I'm not at my goal, but I'm toning up, my legs are getting nicer looking. I can be that 25 year old with shorts on! I don't have to cover up anymore. =) It's really nice to THINK about it. It's the idea of actually feeling it that is scary.

So, I am now at a point that I am learning how to feel that way again. It is nice. So, while I have about 10 more lbs to lose, I can start the process of learning to be sexy! I guess I deserve it after all this hard work! emoticon
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    It can definitely be a conscious effort to get your mind and new self confidence in shape, just like it is to physically work out! Maybe if you start by wearing the dresses around the house you can slowly build up confidence. It's already April and the weather is warm, so you better get going. emoticon
    3597 days ago
    You sure do my Honey.....
    I agree with hubby...show off your progress.....

    WooHoo...well done....I am proud of you
    3603 days ago
  • KTMAE2006
    atta girl! I just bought a silk nightgown from victoria's secret. Maybe ease into it. get used to wearing shorts or dresses around the house. work your way towards wearing them in public. It takes time! But you deserve to strut your stuff!
    3603 days ago
    Manda you do look totally amazing... and i totally know how you feel. I have a really hard time with this too! Just keep talking positively to yourself, find something you like about yourself every day, and listen to your hubby! In this one case, he's right!
    3603 days ago
    I know the feelings...that being said. Trust your hubby, he loves you and wants you to see what he sees... A true beauty inside out. My hubby loved me before the weight lose and jokes that it is sad their less of me to love...it's kind of sweet. Love yourself and trust yourself!
    emoticon Walking with Christ
    3603 days ago
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    I think sometimes it takes time for your head to catch up with your body, if that makes sense! But it will come! Just maybe start small and work your way up to feeling comfortable in clothes baring lots of skin :) Keep up the good work girl!
    3603 days ago
    All I can say is "WORK IT!!!!"
    The hubby is pleased and wants to show off "his" assests.
    You're getting there (mindset)...so in the words of Rue Paul, "You bettah work"! emoticon
    3603 days ago
    I totally know how you feel! Rick says the same stuff and I think the scale is a huge part of why I dont feel as good as I should..OH WELL.. we will grow into our new skin ;) Keep up all your hard work and dedication! xxx
    3603 days ago
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