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Leading The Way

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

As a woman, and mother, I try daily to set standards for my two daughters. They are both teens, and are at that age where they just don't want to follow, but only lead. Well , this week, they have both come to me and shared how they felt about my weight loss. They were sad. Why?? Because, "mommy", didn't make them do the same thing!!!

You see, my little ladies are also plus size. Of course in my eyes, they are the most beautiful people in the world. However, I had to question myself, and ask if I had truly been a good leader to them. Should I have done more, led better, or just plain ordered them to do as I do?? For a moment I was soooooo, sad.

How could I not have saw the writing on the wall, was I too full of myself to notice their unhappiness? What type of leader am I?

Well, you know what I finally did? I had a little talk with Jesus, and he said, "Each day is ANEW!! Be a leader NOW!! And you know what, I trust on his word, and not my own... (thank goodness).

So, tomorrow, these sparkpage visits will not just be about me, but for my team. I am now a true team leader!!! So, anyone out there reading this blog, if you have ideas that inspires a teen to want to work it out, recipes that are fun and easy to prepare, then please feel free to stop by my page and share.

Thanks for listening!!!
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    Love this, this is why I'm on the if my daughter can't eat it I don't eat it kick. I am working out in front of her and losing the weight now so when she is older we can be active. She outruns me now and it isn't just because I sprained my ankle severely. emoticon
    3432 days ago
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    There is also a Spark community for teens -

    3438 days ago
    I feel you on this. I have a 19 year old daughter that basically follows whatever I do. Including gaining weight. She actually weighs more now than I do. We're on this journey together. My laziness when it came to cooking created both of our situations. Now I have enlisted her help, we talked before we started. We create our meal plans together, create our grocery list together and shop. If I forget to take out our dinner meat she's my back-up. I think including them in the task makes them just as responsible for their success. We weigh-in on the same day and we ask about each others outcome. Share a word of encouragement or shout praises. If there was gain we talk about what could be the culprit. We take our walks together which gives us time to talk about our day. We both made list of goals and rewards and things I learn I share with her. Keep them involved in the plan. Allow them to discuss their struggles, strengths and concerns. Make your team like a group meeting and be sure it's only about the weight loss journey, nothing else. Great job on being there now that they are ready to take the journey. Gods blessings upon each of you.
    3440 days ago
  • CHARMIN608
    Thank you for sharing. I can relate to your situation. My son is also overweight and I blamed myself for contributing to the problem. Once I made a decision to live a healthier lifestyle...WE both joined the gym and have been enjoying it! Yes, today is a new day! God bless you!!
    3440 days ago
    Wow, do I relate. I am,as my name says, mom to six blessings. I try not to beat myself up over the fact that I have not been a very good role model over the years. Even in three short months, things are changing, but we have a long way to go.

    So glad you consulted the Savior and are trusting His wisdom. This is a new day and we start from here. I only have one daughter, and she is our youngest-4. We homeschool and I have begun incorporating exercise for my oldest two into their required school subjects. They are not overweight, but one is decidedly a couch potato. They have with me to the gym a couple times, which will become a habit.

    I know your girls are blessed to have such a caring, concerned, involved mom. Jesus will lead the way and it will be awesome!
    3440 days ago
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