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Friday, October 07, 2011

**Warning,....nothing but a gripe blog...probably not worth your reading**

Arg! This morning sucked...all before 7 AM. Well I guess it started last night with hubby and me arguing about laundry. He is great about helping around the house...but let's look at our schedules and see....I wake up at 4:30 in the morning...he wakes up at 7:30...I go to bed around 9:30 bc I wake up so early...and he goes to bed at midnight...he stays up because he doesn't want to go to bed...and really he doesn't have to bc he gets to sleep in. But then he complains that he is always folding laundry and stuff and cleaning...but he gets off work at 5:30...is home by 6 and just sits and waits on me to cook dinner. So I work from 6:45 AM til 6:30 at night between teaching and coaching (yes I have about 45 min between but I usually spend that time working in my classroom, working out, or running cheer errands) and when I get home I cook us dinner...then I clean up after dinner...so then it's already around 8 by the time I get to sit down and relax...and he expects me to do laundry and clean in the middle of the freaking week bc that's a woman's job....O NO HE DIDN'T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He pulled the "woman's job" card on me and I really over reacted. I was steaming...so I (on my hurt ankle) stomped around the house cleaning and doing laundry.

Now I have to rewind...he does spend a lot of time after I go to bed cleaning the kitchen and putting laundry away..but he has 3 extra hours to do that! I don't....When I have time, I do ALL the vacuuming, all the bathroom scrubbing...I work freaking 11 hour days! and he still freakin makes more money than me! WTF!! He tells me he "Needs me to help around the house." WTH do I do on weekends? I help around the freaking house. I take trash out...I cook us dinner, I do the grocery shopping...So yes I do help. I know that I don't do as much laundry and dishes as he does...but I do lots of other stuff. And I'm super busy working 11 hour days. I know that he wishes I had more time to do stuff and he didn't have to. But for him to tell me that it was "a woman's job" to do the laundry and stuff...it just really made me mad and hurt my feelings that he thought I didn't do jack around the house.

So then this morning...when I went to tell him bye (bc I leave the house before he ever wakes up) he asked me to take the laundry out of the dryer and fold it and change the laundry over from the washer to the dryer. (AS I"M LEAVING!!) So I told him I would do it after school today and do all the "womanly" job things so when he got home he would have a home a "man" should come home to. I'm pretty hard core on the feminist side when it comes to that stuff. A woman and a man work together....there is NO woman job or man job...it is do what you can when you can. He got all mad at me for "overreacting" and we argued for a few minutes..

I know I overreacted, but I just wish he would understand why it makes me mad. I do help out..I do laundry, I do dishes, I clean...and I cook. He has more time in his day than I do...So, yes he does probably tidy house more than me. So, my Friday morning sucked! So frustrating. grr!

Sometimes I don't understand what men are thinking when they talk to a woman. Hubby just doesn't seem to get that what he said hurt my feelings instead of asking me to help him while he does it too, or maybe if he would actually do the yard work then I wouldn't feel so bad about him asking me to do the "woman" jobs...he also can't fix a dang thing in our house...I'm the handy person...not him. So I spend time fixing stuff...or getting someone to fix it for us.

I have really struggled with the transition of living on my own for 5 years to living with a man and having to compromise for everything, worry about what he does, and relying on each other. I think that has been the hardest part of this first year of marriage for me. Blah. I love him and wouldn't trade marrying him for anything, I just have to learn how to live with another person and get over the fact that he doesn't know how to address situations.

On another note, I had a great run yesterday. Ran 5 miles in under 50 minutes again. Hills were easier and not so bad. But I rolled my ankle at the last .25 mile. Car was coming at us...and I moved over to the side of the road...and the road dropped off to grass and I rolled my ankle off it. =( Now it's tight and sore...and a little swollen. Bummer, but the run was still good.

Hope you all have a better Friday than me. =)
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    That's terrible that he said that! I hope you've had time (since writing) to sit down and explain to him why that comment hurt you, and that you are pitching in as much as you can. Sometimes being married is a drag.
    3427 days ago
    the first year of marriage is always the hardest....getting used to living with each other....finding out the little idiocincracies that you didn't know were there and working with them and around them.....these can all take time and effort to sort through....

    good book that may be of help to you.....Men are from Mars, Women are from Venice"
    My husband started reading it one year and learned a lot about me in the couple of chapters he managed to read....
    3431 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/8/2011 10:02:33 PM
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    Sorry you had such a crummy morning. Guys are so.... dumb. Yeah, that's the right word. DH always has such a narrow view of things... it took him a while to grasp onto the concept that marriage means relying on each other, not doing whatever you want to do. There are no "his/hers" in the house, etc. Your hubby will come around eventually. Guys just aren't as quick as girls. emoticon
    3432 days ago
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