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There is no place like home...until things change!

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

I have been on Sparkpeople for a very long time. I have watched many people come and go, and I have watched the site grow and flourish. I love it here and am thankful for it!

I have always been thankful to have this place to retreat to. When I need advice, or to ask a question or I am just looking for someone to share my "feeling of the day"...this has been a great place.

I want to see Sparkpeople grow and continue to do well, and I understand the business side of things.

What I do not care for, and am pretty mad about, is the invasion I have been feeling by this website. Everytime I log in, I fear I will accidentally hit the button that logs me in through Facebook- and then my journey is there for all to see. I am not in a place where I want everyone to know about my weight or my struggles. I keep my 2 pages very separate! I do not like the idea that anyone can come to my blog and hit a button to "share it" with whoever. Now I know that when you blog, it is out there for anyone to see. I have often gotten Sparkmails from people asking if they could copy something, and I have done the same from Blogs I have enjoyed. I just do not like the idea that I feel they are promoting the idea of sharing things with whoever I want- because your blog is your story, your feelings, your deal. I do not like the share button- whether it is to share here or anywhere else. It is not anyone's job but mine to share my blogs.

I am just mad that in order for Sparkpeople to survive, they have decided to put us all out there- and I do not like that. You know who the people are who are on this website and are hoping to gain a following to someday write a book, or be featured in one of Spark's books, or to be in a magazine- that is great! Those people, by sharing what they do, help all of us. I celebrate them- and Spark- for opening that door for them. That is a choice they make, and it makes them happy. Although I like to share things, I feel I do it safely and comfortably and I am not looking for anything more than a few hugs when things are bad a a hip hooray when I can post a loss. I have set my page to private to help ensure I am not standing in the wide open for strangers to look at...I am a person and want a safe place to be myself.

I just wish that rather than having to figure how to "opt out" of these sorts of things- having your blogs passed around- that you could Opt In- "pick me- I wanna tell my story to the world!" Unless I can figure out how "not" to let something happen- it can happen.

I for one, do not want my Facebook friends to know this part of my life. And, I do not want my Sparkpeople friends to know the details of my family and personal life. I keep the two separate because that is how I choose to handle it. As I see this becoming harder to do,and I am worried that I will make a mistake that will cross the two, I am faced with a decision that does not make me feel happy.

I hope more people who feel this way will speak up and let the good people at SParks know how you feel. They can accomplish their goals, have success and and still respect us...or we will all start to fade away and try to find that safe, comfortable place elsewhere, and that would make me sad- because Sparkpeople has been my home for a long time.

Thank you for listening to my perspective.
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  • CANDOK1260
    i hope you decide to stay on spark. we need pewople like you.
    3318 days ago
    I had no idea until you pointed it out! Thanks for making me notice since alot of times I'm in a hurry & could possibly do that! So I totally agree with you! I've come here to help myself in this & venting about stuff & not worry about someone figuring out whom I'm venting about!
    3323 days ago
  • AMBER281
    Very well said and totally agree!!
    I also try to keep the two very separate.
    3323 days ago
  • no profile photo CD10081037
    Totally agree with you and thankyoou i too would like to keep the two seperate as lots of my family are in Scotland, and they need not know about things here!!
    Thank you for blogging on this subject!!!
    3324 days ago
    I was not aware of this, I do know I did one time allow a link to Facebook but dont want that anymore. I cant seem to undo it.
    I agree that this being a private site makes it ideal especially when we need to vent at times.
    I am glad we are friends and can share between us.
    I am also glad you feel free to speak your mind, WTG
    Smiles and hugs

    3324 days ago
    You rock girl!
    3324 days ago
    emoticon hi love i hear you loud and clear.i know spark went about it all the wrong way this time by having a opt out instead of an opt for but i now believe they have sorted it out now and taken that share button away.well that is what i understood from one of spark guys blogs.please don´t leave this site love i for one will miss you.i now all this has caused a lot of bad feelings and some of the damage to peoples trust can not be totally replaced but this site still has a lot to offer and i still need it and you my spark friends to make this journey.i know i can´t make it by myself.glad you are still hanging in there. emoticon
    3324 days ago
    Totally agree, and sure don't want all that I put here, out there... I want this safe haven. I thought that the share fb on blogs was gone... I have seen it on other sections but blogs I hope I was right in thinking it is off this. Even still, you are right, our spark name gets out there and bang wouldnt take much to find it all.
    thanks for writing this blog....
    3324 days ago
  • UNICORN212

    You said it much better than I ever could1
    3324 days ago
    Well said Ang!!!!! I agree, my Facebook life is a whole different world and I do not want that world to cross with my SparkPeople life. I have never felt so "at home" as I do here at Spark, but that cannot continue if I feel that Facebook and Sparkpeople cross my worlds. I do not feel "at home" on Facebook and I probably never will.
    3324 days ago
    I so agree with you! This is my private journey being shared with people on the same journey. I don't want to share this part with my outside life. You put it so eloquently!! emoticon
    3324 days ago
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