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My mom........

Wednesday, February 01, 2012

I'm about to pour my heart out so please don't read this if you want light and fluffy! My mom and I have always had a crazy relationship! She was jealous of my close relationship with my dad! With that said she could always be so much fun! She would make a tent for me and my friends with chairs and she would plan the best Birthday parties for me! There were clowns, tye dying shirts, scavenger hunts, and all sorts of fun games! When I was 13 she started down a destructive path! I saw lots of things I shouldn't have seen! She would try to kill herself and call me to come help her! I would see blood and broken things all over her apartment! Then she finally got it together and she kept it together for a couple years! She was so excited when she found out I was pregnant! She bought most of my daughters clothes, and she stocked up on diapers and wipes so I had months worth, and she stocked my house with food! She babysat her and my middle son and she would take them to the park and always get fun crafts for them to play with at her house! She was so excited to be a grandma! Then some aspects of her life fell apart again and she fell apart! The last 4 years have been her heavily drinking and ending up in the hospital sobering up for a couple weeks and it would all start over again! I couldn't trust her to watch the kids and I would get so mad at her for not getting her life together I would scream at the top of my lungs at her! With that said I was always her biggest cheerleader! I would check on her when she was in rehab and go see her and call her all the time when she got out! It would go well for a couple weeks! I begged my family for help! I wanted her healthy! I wanted her to see my kids grow up but my family was in denial! They thought she was fine! Most of our conversations in the last couple months I would usually be rolling my eyes however I called her at least once a week to check on her! Most of our relationship I felt like her mom instead of the opposite! So a couple days ago I tried to call her (friday) and she didn't answer so I called my step-dad and he said she was barely eating anything and she was so weak she was sleeping all the time! By barely eating i mean she was eating 2 bites of soup all day! When I talked to my step-dad I told him he needed to take her to the doctor or hospital! Whenever her drinking gets really bad this is what happens she barely eats, gets weak, and goes to the hospital and gets fluids and ends up better for at least a couple weeks! Well he didn't take her because she didn't want to go and although I would never say this to him because he has enough guilt I am furious......he should have taken her to the hospital days ago whether she wanted to go or not! I'm sure this would still have happened at some point but it was his responsibility to take care of her! He said she could barely walk and he had to bring her medicine to her however when she passed away she had a cup of vodka next to her......hmmm I wonder how she got that! Due to her not eating and drinking so much her body shut down! I was not expecting that call on saturday! I was expecting to hear that she was in the hospital sometime soon but passed away nope wasn't expecting that! I honestly thought I would be okay when this day came because it would mean so much less drama, worry, and anger in my life! That is not the case! I am broken! I am heartbroken! I am lost! I want my mom! Just because someone has issues it doesn't change the fact that you still have good memories of them! I loved her and I have lots of good memories and I always hoped she would get it together but she didn't and she never will and I am broken! I am broken with no mom :(
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  • BOOKRUNNER
    Hi Chrissy, I lost my mom in exactly the same way four years ago, multiple organ shut down from ethanol poisoning, a glass of vodka next to her and a dad who didn't ring the ambulance until I insisted (too late), so I understand and am also so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had the good stuff with you mom because my mom was too forgone by the time I had my kids. I believe (from reading whet you have written) that you do have inner strength and beauty because you were able to see the positive and support her. Look after your heart and keep focusing on the positive. I'll be sending you positive vibes. x
    3306 days ago
  • HDHAWK
    I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Unfortunately we can't change another person's choices. As much as possible, remember the good times. emoticon
    3321 days ago
  • KITTYKITTEMMING
    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You, however ARE NOT broken. You are strong, will get through the immediate grief, and will come out on the other side realizing that your mom is still with you and watching her grandchildren in spirit. She is healthy and happy, which it sounds like much of her life was not, for whatever reason. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    3322 days ago
  • AMY_1217
    My heart breaks for you Chrissy. No matter what demons she had that you both had to deal with, she was still your mom. Still the grandmother to your children. There aren't enough issues in the world to take that relationship away. Its a love that breaks through all the crap. And it hurts like hell when that bond is broken.

    If you need anything, please let me know.
    3322 days ago
  • SLIMKATIE
    Oh no! I'm SO sorry to hear about your mom. Despite a "crazy relationship", it must be very hard to imagine life without her.
    3323 days ago
  • SWEETPQTE
    I am so terribly sorry for your loss.
    3323 days ago
  • LOPEYP
    Sorry for your loss. Praying for you.
    3323 days ago
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    Words can't take away your pain, but I have had similar losses in my life. My heart breaks for you so much :(
    3323 days ago
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