A Woman's Influence -- My Ah-Ha Moment
Monday, February 13, 2012
It came unexpectedly, when my son was home from Korea for a month - My ah-ha moment. Suddenly I realized without a single doubt, that my influence as a wife, mother, grandmother will live on in the lives of generations to come..... That my influence matters. I no longer wonder if I "got through", or if I "made a difference" What a total epiphany! when I realized that the 'difference' I make, I make for NOW --- not down the road in some abstract 'other' place or elusive future time.
My daughter and my son both noted the strength I exhibited at a particular point in our lives together. (Military husband away all the time) They both spoke of things I taught them that had stuck with them in their own life events and my son said the nicest thing of all when he stated "Mom, you are real! You don't try to be something you aren't, you don't try to dress up the truth but you speak the truth with kindness and tact." Wow.
A woman has influence in the NOW of people's lives. Whether it is a young girl at church, or a student in your class, or your own child... you are making a difference. Your influence as a woman will either lift a burden or add to one; raise up with encouragement, or draw down with discouragement; will bring a smile to a person's thoughts or set a permanent frown in their disposition. As women, we have a responsibility to all those around us, no matter what their economic status or age or race. We need to remember to make our words and actions a blessing and an encouragement rather than be a babbling brook of noise and contention.
If you don't think you are making a difference, then stand up and take notice of all the things you are doing! When you take time to make real pancakes with fresh blueberries on Saturday morning, you are showing how you care. When you take time to set the table with dishes, silverware and napkins and eat together as a family and use table manners, you are teaching things that matter. When you encourage sports, hikes or time outdoors with a Frisbee, you are building good health habits. When you fix nutritious meals and remove things that are not healthy from your diet and theirs, you are teaching that taking care of yourself, helps you be able to take care of them. When you get involved with, and take your family to civic and charitable programs and projects, you are teaching humanitarian behaviour and compassion. When you go to a nursing home or homeless shelter and visit people with no family, you are showing love! If you don't do any of these things, do one today and tomorrow you will want to and the next day you will need to. YOU will be blessed bigger each time you reach out to someone else. And Oh the lives you will touch and Oh how you will be touched, embraced and lifted up in return!
Your influence matters NOW!