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Kill the De-Motivators

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

I guess I was at a low point after over indulging at our Valentine's day celebration dinner (fried calamari, Lobster astice "cream sauce central" , Chocolate lava cake) and not being able to run yesterday but I ran into two so called friends that really sapped my motivation yesterday. The first one, one of my yoga buddies, told me that if I didn't watch it I'd develop anorexia. The second one, the librarian who runs my mystery book group told me in all seriousness that I'm getting too skinny. All this and I haven't even reached my goal weight yet. Geez, my yoga instructor is 3 inches taller than me and weighs 10 lbs less and no one is accusing her of anorexia.

I was speechless but I'm going to arm myself for the next time with a good rebuttal. People just don't understand how easy it is to undermine a person's confidence. Before I ran into these two I felt like the sexiest 60 year old on the planet ( I already told you how complimentary my DH is) but after I saw them I started doubting myself again .

After my run today, I feel a lot better, not quite as sexy but better. I sure hope I can get back to being proud of my weight loss and fitness gain soon. I need every scrap of motivation I can get to keep this going.
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    HEY!!! Sexy....I can relate I hear alot of demotivating comments from well meaning people 2. I can be very sensitive at times. Worse when they get stuck in my head. Keep on sparking, Sexy!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3321 days ago
    Sweetie Pie, It's only what the Hubby says that matters. As long as he likes what he sees, just smile politely at the nay-sayers, say, 'Thank you', and keep gettin' up. Let that roll off to the ground and step on it as you walk away.

    emoticon Of course!!

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    3331 days ago
    wow that sucks
    3338 days ago
    Well meaning friends....hmmm...

    I can totally relate to how quickly a comment can ruin my perfectly lovely attitude...

    Good for you going on your run, and taking care of yourself! Not that this matters, what you think is all that really counts, but I'll just say I think you are looking beautiful, and I sure wouldn't guess your age!!!

    Have a lovely Friday! emoticon
    3350 days ago
    Some of my co-workers are like that. They are green with envy...just ignore them. emoticon
    3350 days ago
    Well, Girl, you just get your sexy back, because you earned it! Doctors tell us that whatever size bones we have, we're healthier if they're not wrapped in fat. If I were you, I'd say exactly what you told us. "Gee, what a downer. I was feeling so great about my accomplishment until you burst my bubble. But, no, on second thought, since I know my circumstances better than you, I think I'll just let that pass. See you around." And leave them there to ponder THAT! Humph!
    3351 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/16/2012 11:38:47 AM
    JEALOUSY. Ignore them. You are hot!
    3351 days ago

    Some people have a very hard time with recognizing that other's body shape and size will not mirror their own. If you're small-boned, for example, you're going to be leaner than someone big-boned can be no matter how hard they try. But that big-boned person may see your leanness without mentally adjusting for your frame, your shape, and know it would be too skinny on them - so it must be too skinny on you.

    I'd certainly trust DH's judgment, your own judgment, and your doctor's. Those three people are most likely to know more about your health and fitness. And if DH says you are the sexiest 60 year old on the planet, I'd say to stand proud and wear that title!

    3351 days ago
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