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Why does this bother me so much?

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Ok, maybe I just need to vent. I always bring baby carrots, a banana, a peach, an apple, etc. to work for my snacks between meals. Yesterday I forgot them and when I mentioned it my co-worker in the cube next to me said, "Oh, what are you going to do without your rabbit food?" She is always making comments about what I'm eating. I don't know if it's envy that I'm actually doing something about my weight (she is either morbidly obese or very close to it) or what.

She's the kind of person that will eat a rice cake but put 1/4 cup of peanut butter on it and think she's being good. Once we went to Chick-fil-A together and when she heard me order a grilled chicken sandwich with the side salad she got the same...only she put the ENTIRE packet of full-fat dressing (meant for one of their large salads) on her salad and then mentioned how the grilled chicken sandwich just isn't the same as the classic, fried chicken sandwich. Well no, it's not. She will drive around a parking lot looking for the closest space and if she can't find one she'll say, "Well, we'll get our exercise for the day parking a little farther." Don't get me wrong, parking farther is a great way to get more active but I wouldn't count it as my exercise for the day. I could go on and on with examples...

There is another woman in our office that has lost a great deal of weight through a lot of hard work; a nutritionist, exercise, etc. and she looks fantastic. I talk to her often about new recipes, gardening, yard work...things that we both enjoy and are healthy. It really irked me one time when our co-worker told her to not lose any more weight. To me that is something very personal...I would never tell anybody (outside my family-for fear of their health) not to gain more weight.

I don't know if it's just because I sit right next to her and we just get on each others nerves, but that rabbit food comment really just rubbed me the wrong way yesterday. I try to subtly encourage healthy changes in others but I don't feel like it's my place to nag someone into a lifestyle change. I almost feel like this woman is trying to hold others back from being healthy so that her health and lifestyle doesn't seem so bad.

Ok, done venting. Thanks for listening!
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  • no profile photo CD11444756
    I may be a little late piping in but IGNORE HER!!! When others make comments I just smile and walk away and tell myself, I don't have a problem, he/she has a problem! By doing this it is not your problem, it's up to them to deal with it because we cannot change others.

    BTW My Dad used to say the same quote: If it was easy, everyone would be doing it!

    Keep up the great work, these last 10 pounds sure take more effort and determination to lose!
    3259 days ago
    Gosh, I wish that I could remember a couple of quotes on people giving advice/ opinions. I have MY FAVE but it's rude ;p

    What I mean are there are a couple I run across now and then and always think, "Why can't I remember this when somebody is saying something that OFFENDS me?"

    She may think she's being cute. She may think she's putting you down. She may...

    If you find a way to not take peoples' comments personally, PLEASE TELL ME!

    It's good to vent about it. I vented yesterday about when I am told or read the term "skinny B--". I run across that a lot (not necessarily "about" me--I find it just horrible).

    I guess the thing to do is keep doing YOUR thing, it's working.

    3287 days ago
    She sounds like a very insecure person. She's trying to deflect that back on you. This is not your problem, it is clearly hers. I'm sure I used to be that person. At least in some ways. Hopefully, one day she will figure it out and make sure true healthy changes in her life.
    3287 days ago
    You can vent all you want. I have a co-worker like that but at least I know the end is near as our jobs are relocating to a new city. I still don't think she realizes I quit smoking and I have not told her because I don't want to hear her opinion.
    I hope you keep your job and Ms. Rabbit Food decides to move on to something else as a possible solution.
    So does your other co-worker have some good recipes or recipe sites? I love to cook and try new things. I use Spark Recipes alot.
    3287 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12526077
    I totally agree that your own health is something very personal to you, and should not be commented on by anyone.

    She is probably so insecure about her ownself and feels powerless. Weight is such a vicious cycle. She can't move the way she wants to because she's obese, but she's obese because she won't move around and make better choices. So the only thing she can do it take cheap shots at those around her who are making better choices. I see this all the time.

    I have a friend who is very skinny and she's cold all the time. It infuriates her when someone will make the comment that she needs to gain a few pounds. If someone complains that they are hot, I would never retort back with "Just LOSE a few pounds, will ya?" So why is it acceptable for anyone to tell her to gain a few??

    Ug. In this situation it probably won't help matters to try and talk to her about her comments, because that will just make it worse. Maybe you can ask to be moved away from her?

    3288 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12565855
    Sounds like she is frustrated with herself and taking it out on others.
    3288 days ago
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