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Life is a popularity contest

Friday, August 03, 2012

We finally learned the results of our lighten up contest at work. In the beginning we were told that we would earn points based on daily goals. We got a point for 30 minutes of exercise, drinking half our body weight in ounces of water, eating 2 servings of fruit and 2 servings of vegetables, and then a point for our own personal goal. A possibility of 4 points a day. We also had a list of around 100 mini challenges we could do throughout the 12 weeks of the contest. A lot of ways to get points, however the points turned out to be like the points in Whose Line Is It Anyway - they don't matter. Instead everyone was to vote for who they thought a) was most devoted and b) changed the most. The 4 winners were the girl who does martial arts competitively who just wanted to be part of something, the fromer dancer who let herself go, the woman who complained about everything and didn't change anything, and finally the woman who has always been into organic eating and fitness. I'm ok with the former dancer winning because she made an effort. The one who does martial arts didn't do anything different from her norm so I don't see it as much of a challenge for her. The one who complained about everything, especially when her team lost a week and had to wash the winning teams cars, I don't understand. Finally, the one who has alway been into a healthy lifestyle I can kind of understand because most of the girls who participated are newer and didn't know that she was one of those "militant" health nuts. They weren't here for her 6 week juicing cleanse.

The ones with the most points got nothing. The woman who carried her sheet of mini challenges around with her and struggled to get her 30 minutes of exercise in, but did it most days, got nothing. This is the one who probably found this competition the most challenging because she is the heaviest and oldest, yet she made great changes. She started eating more fresh fruits and veggies and tried so hard. The first week she lost 7 pounds! I feel so bad for her. She tried so hard and put so much more effort into it than the others. I said before that I saw it as a joke, but she didn't. She didn't get the most points, not that it mattered, but I don't understand why she didn't get a prize. Yes, she's loud and can be hard to take, but so what! This wasn't supposed to be a popularity contest.

I have never been one to follow the crowd. Imagine being the only Human Services major who didn't believe in Affirmative Action. I thought, and still think, that you should get hired based on skills and knowledge, not the color of your skin. I don't want to be hired to fill a quota - I want to be hired because I am qualified.

The ironic thing about today is that we were all given a "pick me up packet" as we were leaving work. We all had to write a positive message to everyone on little squares of paper. The squares were then put together like a little book so we all have this cute little book to look at when we're feeling down or stressed. So now I have these pages telling me all these nice things and I am so frustrated with the very people who wrote them. I am a good friend. I look on the positive side. I can smile and find something to laugh about even when I am stressed or annoyed. I have an infectious laugh. (side note - I have a very distinct laugh. Either you hate it or you love it.). I am sincere and honest.

I am sincere and honest. Therefore I am going to come up with my own prize for Terrie. I want her to know that she did a great job and that she should continue on this journey. The others may not have seen it, but I did, and I know it was hard for her. I just need to come up with a prize.

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    New note...you ARE a caring person!!

    2972 days ago
    I admire you for wanting to do something for her even if "she's loud and hard to take". Poor woman probably worked her behind off as much to fit in as to lose weight. As one who was always on the outside looking in, I can relate. But I don't dwell on it. I have 4 close friends who accept me as I am. Maybe you can become that kind of friend for her

    Best of luck. emoticon
    2974 days ago
    That can be so frustrating to watch those that did not deserve it get the prize and you know that you worked so hard to do your best. How about something that she can use to continue on her journey to lose more weight. Maybe a journal or something like that and also tell her your journey too.
    2974 days ago
    It is great that you are willing to take the effort to give someone else the positive attention for all her hard work. I think it gets easy for contests to get to be more about popularity then actual effort/results.
    2974 days ago
    Unfortunately, the world revolves around popularity. No one cares who puts in the most work, does it without complaint, and always tries to help others. Some people who are popular get there by destroying anyone 'better' than them. I've been cut off at the knees and taken advantage of by so many people. But that's what life is. We can't change the populous, we can only change ourselves.

    I think it's a great idea doing something nice for this woman. Maybe you can ask her about bringing lunch for the both of you one day (something healthy yet delicious) and talk to her about how well she did, how you admire her drive, and how you'd like to stick with her on this journey to better health. Perhaps you can take walks together during breaks or after work. If you're not sure about spending that much time with her, a good prize would be something like a pedometer or a cooking item she might not have. You could also get her a $10 gift card so she could pick up something for herself.

    Of course, you could also encourage her to join SP so she can continue her journey with more support!
    2974 days ago
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    That is really sweet that you want to come up with a prize for her! I'm bad at thinking of things like that, but I think it's wonderful what you're doing anyway. I can completely understand your frustration, too. It sounds like a very high-school situation.

    Good luck! I'm sure you'll make that woman's day!
    2974 days ago
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