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Lessons Learned from the Men in My Life

Monday, October 01, 2012

I have had a weight problem since I was 9 years old - an ongoing struggle now for over 50 years. How ironic that some of the most valuable lessons I have learned around food has come from 3 men in my life that have never struggled with their weight - my husband Steve, and my 23 year old twin sons Ryan and Gavin.

Here is what they taught me:

If you miss out on a treat "It is only food."
" It is not the only piece of cake, or pie in the universe. There will be
other opportunities, other desserts to have on other days."

General Philosophy:
"If you are going to regret it, than don't eat it, If you are going to eat
it enjoy it!"
"The weight didn't come on in a day, and it won't come off in a day."
"Don't go for the grand gestures - 20 mile walks, starving yourself
just be healthy and sensible - consistency, consistency,
"When eating one meal, no need to think about what you are going
to eat next, be present at the current meal."

They actually enjoy exercise. If my husband doesn't go out for a
daily walk something is missing. My boys love to work out at the
gym and are proud of the muscles that develop. None of them do it
for weight loss, but to maintain their healthy weights and bodies.
Most of all they don't spend their days dwelling on food, what they
might eat etc.

As a matter of fact, whenever I ask them what they want for dinner.
They don't really care. They will eat whatever is there. It is just not
that big a deal as long as it is edible.

These are the lessons my men have taught me. Now, I know they have genetics on their side but they also have commonsense as well.
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    Perhaps you could adapt the following recipe that describes a quinoa stuffing? If not quinoa, then how about a wild rice, or a rice blend stuffing?

    Acorn Squash Stuffed with Quinoa and Fruit
    4 acorn squash, medium 2 tsp honey 1 cup pears, chop
    2 cups quinoa, rinse/drain ½ tsp ground mace 2 tsp walnuts, chop
    2 cups apples, chop ¼ tsp ground cardamom 1 tsp ground cinnamon
    ½ cup dried apricots, chop 4 cups vegetable stock ¼ tsp ground allspice
    2 tsp margarine
    Coat a large baking dish or roasting pan with no-stick spray. Cut squash in half lengthwise; scoop out and discard seeds. Place the halves, cut side down, in the prepared dish. Bake at 350F for 30 minutes.

    Meanwhile, in a 2 quart saucepan over medium-high, bring stock to a boil. Add the quinoa; stir and reduce heat to low. Cover and simmer 20-25 minutes, until liquid is absorbed. Remove from heat and let stand 5 minutes. Fluff with a fork.

    In a large no-stick frying pan, melt margarine. Add apples, pears, apricots and walnuts; cook, stirring frequently, 5 minutes. Stir in honey, cinnamon, mace, allspice and cardamom; cook 2 minutes. Transfer to a large bowl. Add quinoa and mix well.

    Turn the squash cut side up. Divide the quinoa mixture among them. (If there is any extra filling, place it in a small casserole dish.) Bake at 350F for 15 minutes, or until the squash are tender.

    4 servings

    2974 days ago
  • CROWLEY123
    I think that's great, and of course it all makes so much sense.
    And you know what; it wouldn't matter to me what was for dinner, or breakfast or lunch for that matter, if I didn't have to plan it, prepare it, serve it and clear up after it! "Anything" would be just fine with me!
    Thanks for reminding me to be more sensible! emoticon
    2974 days ago
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    What smart, smart men they are. And what a great mom and wife they have!
    2974 days ago
    Those are some great tips! I will try to keep them in mind!
    2975 days ago
  • DEBBY4576
    And how great are you to have seen this in your men? Your love for them had you paying attention to their thoughts and beliefs and you adopted them. It must have taken a lot of thought to put into words what you've learned. Thank you, it was all a good lesson for us too.
    2975 days ago
    You know, now that you've brought it up, I think I've thought more about food since joining Sparks last June than I ever did before. From tracking that first glass of water in the morning, to the afternoon suspense of wondering how many calories I'll have left over for a bedtime snack, to actually enjoying that bedtime snack--food is on my mind constantly. Even "thinking good" can become obsessive, and then it's not so good!

    The men in your life are absolutely right on in their nutritional nonchalance (despite their lack of a weight issue). I think I'll borrow a little of their wisdom, myself, and put it into practice.
    2975 days ago
  • 1EMMA2011
    emoticon Thanks for sharing these great thoughts. So true!!
    2975 days ago
    Every one of those lessons is accurate and wonderful. I especially like the part about not caring what they eat for dinner. What they are saying is that they are using food as "fuel" for their bodies - not for obsessive desires. Way to go!

    2975 days ago
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