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Mixed Messages and Mates

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

It occurs to me that it must be tough being married to someone trying to lose weight. For example, when my husband first started to date me he noticed that a sure winner was to take me out to dinner! He was a little shocked to find I could eat so much. I remember we went out for cornish game hens the size of small condors. I ate mine in a few gulps and he was only about half way through his and looked to be done. I then asked, "Are you going to finish that?"

Later, I would enlist his help in my diet schemes. But he was always in trouble. He knew I liked to eat and it made me happy so he still wanted to feed me. If he tried to help me by monitoring what I ate and saying something about it - ooooh he was in big trouble. He thought maybe I could sometimes have a few goodies from his plate because then I might be satisfied without having a whole plate of unhealthy food.

Talk about cognitive dissonance for all the psych majors out there! He wanted to make me happy, he wanted to help me reach my goal aaaaaarrrrgggghhh.

I have been on SparkPeople so long that he is now out of the habit of offering me stuff. But the other day, lo and behold one of his french fries seemed to shimmy onto my plate. Yeah, you heard right, it was one seductive spud. Okay I did eat it, but when the second one tried to seduce me I just said "NO." The french fry filibuster was finished.

Ah, the poor mates they just don't know what we want them to do because sometimes we are not sure what we want to do. Is today a cheat day or a perfect day or what? How on earth can they figure it out if we ourselves don't always know?
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  • DEBBY4576
    Had to laugh at this one. Just this morning my husband left my coffee black, because he didn't know if I was on a weight watchers type diet, or Atkins. One is coffeemate the other is heavy whipping cream. The poor guys uh?
    2967 days ago
    On my first date, I told my husband I liked to eat and I wasn't going to pretend I didn't. I think I fell in love when he took me to a buffet and told me if I drank a little Pepsi, I'd burp and make more room. Now, I've got him off the sodas and we'er eating better as a family. Today was a perfect day. There is no cheating because this is real life.

    2967 days ago
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    Yep!!! I hear ya!!
    2967 days ago
    This can apply to all sorts of relationships. Good job saying NO to that second french fry!
    2967 days ago
    This made me smile. This describes my relationship so well! My hubby is fit and has never struggled with weight. He is so encouraging about me working out and eating healthy, but God help him if he suggested I work out! He used to bring the occasional cupcake home because he knows I like them so much and it made me happy. After biting his head off doing just that last month, I came home the other day and discovered a small box of mini-cupcakes at the back of our oven. He had his own craving for one but wanted to hide them from me :)
    2967 days ago
    Great post. Thanks for sharing.
    2967 days ago
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